(Closed) Dad/Stepdad and Toasts

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
6891 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Who does he think would be uncomfortable?

Post # 4
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would be interested to find out why your FH thinks people would be uncomfortable hearing both his dad and stepdad speak at the wedding.  Maybe there’s some lingering unrest between his dad’s family and his stepdad’s family?  The thing about weddings is that everyone gets together to celebrate the occasion, even families that have been avoiding each other previously, so people would just have to “suck it up” if they don’t like seeing the step-family.

Anyway, you should find out your FH’s reasoning on this one, and ask him if he’s OK with including his stepdad but not his dad in the “events” of the day.  But I guess in the end, it’s his decision what to do with his family at his wedding.

(And your idea of having your dad skype in is pretty cool.  You could reserve a seat in his honor too.)

Post # 7
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i think you should listen and understand your fiance more as it’s his family and he knows them best. 

I think hooking up a video-camera for your dad is a wonderful idea and very touching. 

Personally, I prefer seeing only parents make blessings, speeches, etc at weddings.  I find it bad taste having step-parents involved in these things at weddings as from my experience it often causes distress for some family members. 


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