Post # 1
I had a wonderful wedding and a beautiful day. And nothing can take away from that.
However, yesterday we got a bill from our reception venue. One of our guests caused almost £1,000 worth of damage and we are now stuck with the bill for repairs.
I am absolutely furious and beyond hurt that someone we invited would do this. We chose our guest list so carefully due to only having a small venue, and now one of our closest friends or family member has done this to us.
I don’t know what to think. Of course I’ve been in contact with people, but who’s going to own up to a grands worth of damage?
Just feeling really really hurt right now, but don’t want to rant at people IRL.
Just need some epic bee-sympathy :p
Post # 3
@Nellop: Oh no! I’m so sorry you have to deal with this the day after your wedding. I think that you should ask around your guests to find out if anybody saw anything. Do you have any suspects? What were the damages?
Post # 4
Oh, wow, that’s awful! Did the venue give you an itemized list of the damages and an estimate for repair? That seems very high. If nobody in your wedding party owns up to causing the damage I’d be inclined to pay a visit to the venue, tell them you can’t afford to pay this, and see if they can work something out with you. Obviously you and the groom did not cause the damage. It’s possible they may work with you. In the meantime, I hope someone comes forward and offers to help pay for this, it’s unbelievably unfair that they’d expect you and your husband to pay for something they caused. Good luck with this!
Post # 5
Unfortunately most venues have a clause in the contract that states that you are responsible for any damages caused at your event. I’m so sorry this actually happened to you though! I doubt that you will find the guest(s) that caused the damage to possibly get any money from them. Again, I’m very sorry that this happened to you and no doubt is causing y’all stress 🙁
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Nellop: You got married April 1 and they’re just contacting you about damage on April 15? They could have had another wedding between now and then!
I agree with PP, did they give you an estimate? I would definitely request one if not, visit the site to view the damage for yourself to make sure they are not over-estimating.
Research previous brides if you can find any that have had their wedding there– did this happen to any of them?
I feel like if there were damage they should have mentioned it IMMEDIATELY. Not to ruin your night or your honeymoon but obviously this is outside normal circumstances.
Post # 7
Unfortunately there’s no chance that they’re ripping us off etc. It’s my husbands workplace – he’s assistant manager at the restaurant/cafe so he’s been able to totally investigate it. They were kind enough to wait till husband was back at work to let us know, and fortunately it means we will be able to pay it off a bit at a time.
Between us arriving at 7pm and the ladies toilets closing at 10pm (ish), someone smashed up a toilet bowl, a sink and practically ripped a cubicle door off the hinges. So with a new toilet and sink, plus plumbing and labour charges, we’re just under £1,000. And that’s not to mention the cleaning up of all the vomit.
Due to my stupidly sized dress, I only used the disabled loo, and it wasn’t until I asked around that I even found out that the ladies toilet had been out of order for half the night.
I didn’t think that anyone was that drunk at all, but I have a few suspects. Husbands family have a lot of alcoholics and heavy/binge drinkers in there – including his sister, his mum and his mum’s friend. However, his family are all scroungers (collectively, they owe husband well over £10,000 from ‘borrowing’ money over the past 10 years – fortunately I’m now in charge of finances, and none of them will be getting another penny) so I doubt, even if they owned up, that we would get the money from them.
Its just put a massive dampener on the day, when I look back. I genuinely thought that, for one day, his family could behave and not fuck things up for him. I couldn’t be more angry at them for what they’ve done and put husband through in the past, and now they’ve done this on his wedding day – and at his place of work, which has seriously screwed up his chance of a promotion when his boss leaves in a couple of months.
On a plus note – I had an email ten minutes ago telling me that we can move into the house we’ve been looking at in June. Yay!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Who tears up a toilet and stall? How do you smash a toilet without something heavy to do it? I would be so confused and somebody would be getting retribution for it, especially if they didn’t reimburse me for the damages. It may take months or even years but the opportunity would arise and I would have my revenge.
Post # 9
What strange behavior. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!
Post # 10
What the?? Do you have any idea who did it? I imagine it would be pretty hard to cover up someone smashing a toilet!
Post # 11
what the hell?! surely someone would have seen/heard someone smashing up a toilet stall?
oh my goodness – i’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!
Post # 12
Apparently they were pulled off the walls and the toilet was in pieces.
The toilets are situated well away from both the kitchen and the main area, and music was playing through the main restaurant speakers, which means loud music was playing in the main area, toilets and corridor in between. So it wouldn’t be too far fetched to imagine that noone heard. Eurgh.
just wish people had more respect 🙁
Post # 13
Wow, that’s freaky. I would be very mad and annoyed. So sorry to hear about that.
I read one posting on here a few months about about some wedding guests who got drunk and tossed the patio furniture into the pool at the venue and cost the bride and groom a bunch for that.
Another thing to worry about for my own wedding, sigh.
I don’t suppose the venue could bear some partial responsibility for over-serving?
Post # 14
@Jennlee: unfortunately I think it’s probably one of the people who turned up at the church already tipsy and who used the gap between ceremony and reception to go to the pub.
I also know that many of them brought drinks with them (a member of his family proudly showed my new husband the flask he had been drinking from during our wedding ceremony).
It’s silly, but I just want them to know how much its hurt us and to be sorry.
I’m so done with his family, hopefully I won’t have to have much to do with them anymore!
Post # 15
Wow! I am so sorry this happened to you 🙁
Post # 16
@Nellop: I am SO sorry — this would both infuriate and hurt me terribly. I can’t believe a loved one could do something like this on your wedding day! Did your husband’s workplace not require you to purchase event insurance, or do they not already have it? We purchased event insurance just to make sure — cost us only $100 but covered up to $1,000,000 in damages. That’s just SO much money for you guys to pay… since it’s a business, I’d be making sure they don’t already have insurance to cover damages like this.
That said, we did have one troublemaker, though nowhere near as upsetting as yours….
the groom’s little brother (and Best Man) ah, over indulged in far too many different kinds of alcohol, and ended up vomiting on the stage behind the DJ’s booth. He then proceeded to cover his sick by dragging a speaker over it. For crying out loud. We received a notification in the morning that we’d be receiving a bill for a few hundred dollars for an additional cleaning charge, but I immediately marched right over to my mother in law and she laid the smackdown. Not only did she make little bro drive over to the venue first thing in the morning with a hangover and cleaning supplies in tow, but he paid us for the cleaning fee in cash within a week. HA.