Post # 1
Hi everyone! I am getting married next february in a vineyard (it’s sumer time here!). This is a small boutique vineyard, owned by a friend who allowed me to get married there. We’re only inviting 80 people, between friends in their 30’s and family. The location is beautiful, so dreamy! We’re having dinner in the garden, but it has a stone and grass design that is not suitable for dancing. The classical checkers dance floors won’t do it because of the irregularities of the floor, we would have to put up a professional base, like a low stage, to get an absolutely flat surface. I am finding this option to be expensive, also, it would kinda ruin the location because the garden is small and having a small stage would be weird looking. We’ve invited small children from the family to participate as flower girls and ring bearer, and we hired an amazing caterer with lots of food, a desserts table and open bar. I am hoping our guests will be able to indulge into amazing wines too. We’ll have a jazz band for dinner and then a DJ. My (future) husband and I don’t care much about dancing, so I am thinking about the following options, please let me know what you think:
1.- Just hire the stage, have a dance floor and let guests enjoy themselves. I worry, what if people aren’t too enthusiastic and don’t dance much but prefer to eat and chat?
2.- Don’t hire the stage, but ask the Dj to play some dancing music and let the guests dance if they want too. If people want to dance, they’ll do it even if there isn’t a proper dancefloor. Won’t they trip and fall if the floor isn’t regular? I mean, won’t this be disappointing if you really wanted to dance?
3.- Move the wedding earlier on the day, and have a brunch or lunch, where dancing is not expected. Focus on a kid-friendly celebration, since most parents can’t stay for too long when bringing children. Isn’t this a boring idea?
What do you think would be best? Do you have any other ideas? Thanks!
Post # 2
amsecchi: I’m in the opposite boat – I want a brunch wedding but I also want people to be able to dance but don’t want it to be awkward if they’re (mostly) sober in the middle of the day.
That being said, I say nix the dance floor and people will dance on the grass if they so desire. If you want to encourage them to dance, put on dance music and/or have a first dance or father/daughter dance so they know it’s okay. People will follow your lead about what’s acceptable.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2016 - Rock Island Lake Club
You don’t need a dance floor to dance! If you want people to dance though, I would make sure there is a clear designated area for them to do so. And of course, ask the DJ to play fun songs.
Post # 4
I think the whole setting sounds really beautiful and I don’t think dancing is a necessity at a wedding. I’m picturing a casual, cocktail-type of reception with jazz music playing and people walking around chatting. However, I don’t see this lasting more than 2 hours before people get bored and expect some entertainment/dancing. If you’re switching from a jazz band to a DJ I would automatically think “Oh! Time for the dance party to start!” but when the bride and groom remain seated and no one’s dancing, I’d be pretty confused. It is very possible people will just start dancing regardless but I’d worry about people tripping and getting hurt.
So I would say either host a dinner reception with literally just dinner and dessert and end early. Don’t hire the DJ at all and just have the reception end when the jazz band is done.
Or cut costs somewhere else and rent a suitable dance floor.
Post # 5
I say 3! That’s what we are doing, AND in February 😉 Good luck, it sounds like it will be magical either way!
Post # 6
amsecchi: If YOU TWO don’t care so much about dancing, then dont have the dancefloor…. People can still dance as long as there is some sort of free space!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! Your answers have been really helpful, you have no idea. I am trying not to stress so much about this, I feel it’s such a problem but maybe I am just drowning in a cup of water. I’ll go check the venue again and find the most suitable space for dancing, with the less irregular floor. So, if anyone wants to dance, they’ll be able too. Regarding following someone’s lead to dancing, I’ll have my sisters lead the way, so people can get confortable doing so. Thanks!