(Closed) Dance Timing Question

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should the first dance be before dinner or after?
    Before Dinner : (13 votes)
    48 %
    After Dinner : (14 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I prefer it after dinner so the first dance kicks off dancing in general. It seems to flow better than watching the first dance, eating dinner, then getting up to dance. We’ve been to smaller weddings like yours and they put it afterwards, usually.

    Post # 5
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t think it matters whether or not you’re doing an announced interest, but I do think that the first dance will be a nice divider between the cocktail hour and the dinner. There’s nothing wrong with blending it all together, but if you do that, you may get people that are bored of just sitting around and eating with no other “entertainment” in the middle.

    Post # 8
    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    We are doing first dance before dinner and then mother/son and daughter/father dance after dinner. Our wedding is very similar to yours, small and low-key.

    Post # 9
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would usually say after dinner, to start the dancing. That’s what we’re doing. But with a  2 hour cocktail hour it might seem long and need something to break it up

    Post # 10
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I really want to do my first dance after dinner, but I really don’t want to pay for an extra two hours of my photographer’s time, either.  I’m opting for before dinner.

    Post # 11
    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We had a small wedding (about 40 people).  We did: parent intros at tables, bride and groom entrance (no bridal party), toast (from groom’s brother), dinner, first dance, dancing.  I wasn’t sure how it would go to have people seated for dinner and our first dance prior to dinner.  It worked out well for the first dance after dinner, because then people were up and near the dance floor and it flowed well into getting people on the dance floor.

    Post # 13
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Doing your first dance before dinner would be an excellent way to break up the long period of time from cocktail hour through dinner, and it would also guarantee that you and your new husband have the first dance of the night! 

    Post # 15
    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @FutureMrsLAL:  How long do you plan to take pictures during the cocktail hour? At first I was going to do the first dance immediately upon our entrance to the reception and get it out of the way. But ultimately I’ve decided to have a mini-grand entrance, have some mingling time with our guests, eat, and THEN do the first dance and family dances. I’m thinking of it as a way to get everyone out on the dance floor.

    >>EDIT >>I do think you need to adjust your timeline a bit though just to flow a little more smoothly. Here are my two cents:

     4:00 – Ceremony 4:20 – Pictures, cocktail hour with appetizers, etc.  5:20 or 5:30ish – Dinner served 6:15-6:30ish FIRST DANCE Dancing continues 8:00ish – Cake cutting 8:30 or 9:00 –  Bonfire outside with s’mores.


     4:00 – Ceremony 4:20 – Pictures, cocktail hour with appetizers, etc.  5:20 or 5:30ish – FIRST DANCE Dancing continues 6:30 DINNER IS SERVED DANCING some more 8:00ish – Cake cutting 8:30 or 9:00 –  Bonfire outside with s’mores.

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