Post # 1
First of all, let me preface this by saying I’m new to weddingbee so please bear with me as I attempt to navigate my way through everything there is to offer. That being said, Mr. Railroad and I have been having a debate the since before our engagement about whether our reception would include a dance. Up until this point we were able to say we’ll deal with that when it happens. Well…it’s happening. We’re engaged and need to be making these types of decisions, NOW! I love to dance. I took dance lessons all of my childhood, I dance with friends, etc. but I don’t like to be forced into it. I HATE, hate, hate pushy DJ’s that try to force people out onto the dance floor. My fiance on the other hand hates dancing. He is very shy and so is his family. None of them are dancers. It has always been very important to me to have at least a first dance as husband and wife and a father/daugther dance. I even already bought the cd with my song for my dad (tear jerker!!!). I caved and agreed to not have a dance but I HAVE to have that song in my wedding somehow and I want to still honor the special relationship I have with my dad. Any ideas as to how I can incorporate the song in either the ceremony or the reception without it involving dancing? Thanks ladies!!!
Post # 3
You could always have the song as background music during a specific moment of the ceremony or reception. Maybe when you are walking down the aisle if you don’t want to use the traditional music? I agree with you that I hate pushy DJs. I thought I had made that point clear to my DJ that I didn’t want people to be forced to dance at our reception but I guess he didn’t get the memo because he started with the chicken dance after our first dance (ugh) and then proceeded to play every single group dance in existance!
Post # 4
I’ve been to weddings that had a First Dance and the Father-Daughter dance without having any other dancing, so you could definitely still do that, although I’m not sure if the ‘convention’ of these would make you feel forced into dancing or not. :/
Have you considered an ipod reception? That way no pushy dj but you can still take the time to create a great playlist and have dancable songs and people can dance if they want. IMO all it takes is a few good social leaders to get others to follow and have fun on the dance floor.
Post # 5
Good ideas, thanks! We won’t be having a first dance because my fiance is very shy and doesn’t want everyone staring at us while just the two of us dance. I think it would be a bit odd to have a father/daughter dance but not any type of dance with my husband. I’ve considered an ipod reception and that is something I might do. We’re also considering having a piano player who can play a mix of older and newer songs and sing too. I’m excited at the challenge of figuring out what to do but I’m a little bummed about not being able to dance with my dad.
Post # 6
Railroad, could you have your reception with the ipod. Just let everyone start out dancing, but hen maybe a half hour into it, annoucne that you want to have a special dance with your dad? then after a minute invite other dads and daughters? That way it doesn’t just stand out as, “Hey why is Railroad danicng with her dad but there isn’t a dance with Mr. Railroad?”
Post # 8
I think you should definitely have that moment with your father. And I’m sure it’ll mean the world to him to dance with you on your big day. I basically agree with Tanya123. At some point I’d have the DJ say something to the effect that he’s playing this song for you and your father, and at the same time you can invite other father/daughters so you have only a handful of others around you. And your photographer can get a bunch of amazing photo’s of the moment.
Post # 9
We’re not going to have “dancing” – the guests won’t dance, but we are having a first dance and a bride/father dance, etc… I’ve seen this at several other weddings and it is fine.
Post # 10
I went to a wedding where there was only a father-daughter dance and no other dancing, including a first dance. I don’t think anyone thought it was weird. I certainly didn’t.
Post # 11
Do you mind if I ask which song it is you love for your father?
Post # 12
We’re not having a dance. However, we are both huge music fanatics, and music has played a very important part in our relationship. Therefore, we are using our favourite lyrics as readings during the ceremony, and changing rock music into the recessional/processional. Perhaps you could somehow work your dad-daughter song into the ceremony (depending on the song and style of ceremony).