Post # 1
So my bestfriend emailed me a rough draft of her wedding program when me and my Fiance started planning. But after looking at it I realized that she has the 1st dance and father daughter, then dinner is served. I know that there’s more than one way of doing things but I’m just curious. I thought that the dances opened up the floor for the guests, if so shouldn’t it be after dinner? What did du guys do/planning to do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Mrs_Pacman: Here’s my wedding day timeline:
3:00 Bridal party and family photos
4:00 Cocktail hour begins
5:00 Guests welcomed into ballroom
5:25 Bride and groom first dance
5:30 Best man/Maid of Honor toasts
5:45 Guests are seated for dinner
7:30 Cake cutting, Father/Daughter Dance and Mother/Son Dance
7:40-Dancing, Dessert served
8:50 Last Dance
Post # 4
we’re doing our first dances before dinner and not opening the dance floor up until after dinner for guests. I’ve actually never seen it done any other way.
Post # 5
we waited to have our first dance and dance with our parents until after dinner, but i’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom are introduced into the reception and go straight into the first dance and then dance with their parents after dinner.
it’s really up to you 🙂
Post # 6
I’ve been trying to figure this out, too. The way our venue is setup, it doesn’t make sense to do the first dances before dinner… but I’ve always seen it done that way (on Four Weddings, lol). But I think I would prefer the dances after, because then people aren’t like “Omg, when are we going to EAT already!?”
Post # 7
We did it after dinner, but it dosn’t really matter to me one way or the other.
Post # 8
we did our first dance after dinner (we only had a first dance, none of the others). our reception was at 5:30pm on a friday night and i wanted people to be able to start eating right away. i went to my friend’s wedding a few summers ago and they did all their dances after dinner as well.
Post # 9
We are using our first dance as a way of “moving” people from the room where dinner will be to the rooftop where the dancing will be. After dinner, the DJ will say something like “please join the bride and groom on the deck for their first dance” (i.e. “get your butts up to the roof so we can clean up in here and get y’all drunk!”)
But I think it’s totally normal and fine if they do the first dance before dinner – especially if dinner is still served at a normal time (like the timeline above where it is at 6pm) – if people are starving at 4pm or expect dinner sooner than 6 or 7 then they should have stopped at Taco Bell on the way to the ceremony!
Post # 10
We did our first dance before dinner. After dinner we went into the parent dances.
Post # 11
We had a live band and with a live band the timeline for dinner and dancing was different than for a DJ. Our dinner and dancing was all intersperced through out the night. We had the first course served after introduction of the bridal party, then we opened the dance floor with a first dance. From there on we alternated dancing and more courses being served, (the courses coinciding with the band’s breaks.)
But no we didn’t make anyone sit through the special dances on an empty stomach.
Post # 12
That’s how every wedding i’ve ever been to has been. As soon as the couple enters the reception they do the first dances, and toasts, then dinner. Then everyone dances again for a while after dinner until the cake is cut, then they dance again until the end of the night.
Post # 13
I personally cannot stand waiting through a million dances/speeches to eat. We broke our wedding up like this
- Cocktail hour(plenty of appetizers so the guests got something in their tummy!)
- First dance
- Bride & Groom Speech
- All guests dance
- First course
- Some speeches, Mother/Son, Mother/Daughter Dance – all together
- All guests dance
- Second course
- Some Speeches, DH/DD dance, Kid’s Dance(we had lots of kids!)
- Everyone dances!
We did this so everyone would get up and dance. Don’t you notice there’s always some aunt or uncle that leaves right after dinner? We really wanted everyone to dance and this is how we got it done! And it worked. People could eat(and be quiet) during speeches, not get bored waiting for the next course and come dance with us. Honestly I wish every wedding was like this!
Post # 14
This is just bizarre to me! I have never, ever been to a wedding where anyone dances before or during dinner! It’s always, introduction by mc, dinner, speeches, first dance, parent dance, bridal party dance and then dance floor is open to guests!
I was always so confused while watching Four Weddings when they did their first dance before dinner!
Maybe its a US vs. Canada thing.
Post # 15
Here’s what we did for my December wedding. Totally took the advice of my DOC and went this route because we did not plan on having guest dancing before dinner. Her advice was, ( we wanted a fun, upbeat, dance party for reception) since guests will be eating well at cocktail hr and have some drinks in them, open dancing before meal to get people going before they stuff themselves at dinner. We made our grande enterance and immediately started our first dance, followed by mother/son followed by father/daughter ; 3/4 way through the father dance dj invited guests and bridal party out to join us. Everyone came out and once ding ended, dj started fast paced dancing music and everyone stayed out! We did this for 15 minutes or so then dj announced the best man and guests took their seats again. He did his toast, followed by Maid/Matron of Honor who then announced dinner was served. A lot of people told me they liked the pre meal dancing ( and had never been to wedding like that) because they worked up an appetite instead of immediately eating again.
Post # 16
Wow so many different reviews. I’m stuck between cocktail hour, first dance, dinner then father/daughter dance and speeches. Or cocktail hour, dinner, then doing dances and speeches. I don’t really like the idea of doing all the dances before having dinner.