(Closed) Dancing b4 dinner????

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@Mrs_Pacman:  Here’s my wedding day timeline:

2:30 Ceremony

3:00 Bridal party and family photos

4:00 Cocktail hour begins

5:00 Guests welcomed into ballroom

5:15 Introductions

5:25 Bride and groom first dance

5:30 Best man/Maid of Honor toasts

5:45 Guests are seated for dinner

6:00 Dinner

7:30 Cake cutting, Father/Daughter Dance and Mother/Son Dance

7:40-Dancing, Dessert served

8:50 Last Dance

Post # 4
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

we’re doing our first dances before dinner and not opening the dance floor up until after dinner for guests.  I’ve actually never seen it done any other way.

Post # 5
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we waited to have our first dance and dance with our parents until after dinner, but i’ve been to weddings where the bride and groom are introduced into the reception and go straight into the first dance and then dance with their parents after dinner.

it’s really up to you 🙂

Post # 6
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve been trying to figure this out, too. The way our venue is setup, it doesn’t make sense to do the first dances before dinner… but I’ve always seen it done that way (on Four Weddings, lol). But I think I would prefer the dances after, because then people aren’t like “Omg, when are we going to EAT already!?”

Post # 7
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We did it after dinner, but it dosn’t really matter to me one way or the other.

Post # 8
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

we did our first dance after dinner (we only had a first dance, none of the others). our reception was at 5:30pm on a friday night and i wanted people to be able to start eating right away. i went to my friend’s wedding a few summers ago and they did all their dances after dinner as well.

Post # 9
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are using our first dance as a way of “moving” people from the room where dinner will be to the rooftop where the dancing will be.  After dinner, the DJ will say something like “please join the bride and groom on the deck for their first dance” (i.e. “get your butts up to the roof so we can clean up in here and get y’all drunk!”)

But I think it’s totally normal and fine if they do the first dance before dinner – especially if dinner is still served at a normal time (like the timeline above where it is at 6pm) – if people are starving at 4pm or expect dinner sooner than 6 or 7 then they should have stopped at Taco Bell on the way to the ceremony!

Post # 10
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We did our first dance before dinner.  After dinner we went into the parent dances.

Post # 11
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had a live band and with a live band the timeline for dinner and dancing was different than for a DJ.  Our dinner and dancing was all intersperced through out the night.  We had the first course served after introduction of the bridal party,  then we opened the dance floor with a first dance.  From there on we alternated dancing and more courses being served, (the courses coinciding with the band’s breaks.)

But no we didn’t make anyone sit through the special dances on an empty stomach.

Post # 12
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s how every wedding i’ve ever been to has been. As soon as the couple enters the reception they do the first dances, and toasts, then dinner. Then everyone dances again for a while after dinner until the cake is cut, then they dance again until the end of the night. 

Post # 13
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally cannot stand waiting through a million dances/speeches to eat.  We broke our wedding up like this

  • Cocktail hour(plenty of appetizers so the guests got something in their tummy!)
  • Intros
  • First dance
  • Bride & Groom Speech
  • All guests dance
  • First course
  • Some speeches, Mother/Son, Mother/Daughter Dance – all together
  • All guests dance
  • Second course
  • Some Speeches, DH/DD dance, Kid’s Dance(we had lots of kids!)
  • Everyone dances!
  • Dessert

We did this so everyone would get up and dance.  Don’t you notice there’s always some aunt or uncle that leaves right after dinner?  We really wanted everyone to dance and this is how we got it done!  And it worked.  People could eat(and be quiet) during speeches, not get bored waiting for the next course and come dance with us.  Honestly I wish every wedding was like this!


Post # 14
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This is just bizarre to me! I have never, ever been to a wedding where anyone dances before or during dinner! It’s always, introduction by mc, dinner, speeches, first dance, parent dance, bridal party dance and then dance floor is open to guests!

I was always so confused while watching Four Weddings when they did their first dance before dinner! 

Maybe its a US vs. Canada thing. 

Post # 15
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Here’s what we did for my December wedding. Totally took the advice of my DOC and went this route because we did not plan on having guest dancing before dinner. Her advice was, ( we wanted a fun, upbeat, dance party for reception) since guests will be eating well at cocktail hr and have some drinks in them, open dancing before meal to get people going before they stuff themselves at dinner. We made our grande enterance and immediately started our first dance, followed by mother/son followed by father/daughter ; 3/4 way through the father dance dj invited guests and bridal party out to join us. Everyone came out and once ding ended, dj started fast paced dancing music and everyone stayed out! We did this for 15 minutes or so then dj announced the best man and guests took their seats again. He did his toast, followed by Maid/Matron of Honor who then announced dinner was served. A lot of people told me they liked the pre meal dancing ( and had never been to wedding like that) because they worked up an appetite instead of immediately eating again.

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