Dancing – two left feet

posted 12 months ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I danced my entire life, but my husband was so intimidated by our first dance even though he isn’t normally a shy person. We did a slow first dance where we basically just swayed back and forth. It was actually nice because it was the first time that night we literally slowed down enough to talk. Even as a dancer myself, there is  no way I would have ever suggested to my husband that we do some type of choreographed dance unless I knew he’d be totally in to it. You can do jives and swing dancing the rest of the evening if you want to. If he’s adamant that he doesn’t want to do that style of dancing I think it’s pretty inconsiderate to push the issue.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I would totally recommend lessons. My husband and I are the awkwardest of the awkward and just trip all over each other when we dance. When kids are older I could see dancing lessons being a fun way to get out of the house and spend some time together.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

butternutter :  If he is open to it then that’s totally different. I would ease in to it by just putting on music with similar tempos to what you’re thinking of and just moving around. Make a date night of it! Have a glass of wine and just have fun. From there, if you feel you still want to take things further you can suggest lessons. Even a couple of lessons will give you some ideas of a few moves you can perfect and add to your first dance, like a little spin or a dip. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We taught ourselves a basic foxtrot for our first dance. We didn’t do anything fancy but it was actual dancing as opposed to just swaying. We just practiced in our apartment.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

If he will go to lessons,  go. Sounds like fun. I love salsa. Try that. It’s not hard. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Dh and I had NO IDEA how to dance at our wedding…my mom insisted on dancing, so we did a “first dance” but encouraged everyone else to dance too since we weren’t gonna be doing anything fancy that’s worth undivided attention. We just swayed. I held my hand UNDER his arm…I don’t know what I was thinking, as I knew better. I cringe when I see those photos, lol…

Anyway, we started taking ballroom dance classes this year just for fun…it’s been SOOO much fun, and really helpful. I wish we had taken classes for our wedding! I would highly encourage it. It really doesn’t take long to get the hang of it. If your Fiance struggles with rythem and leading, you could practice/rehearse a staged dance 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

butternutter :  Dh and I can’t dance for crap haha.  We did the hold on to each other and sway thing, then halfway through our MC/singer invited other couples to come up. 

I would suggest maybe watching some youtube first of a couple of different types of dance lessons at home, and see what picks yours and your Fi’s fancy – then go get a few professional lessons in that style. 

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