Dancing with my future son.

posted 2 months ago in Family
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t do it. It seems too much too soon.  Did he  ask you to do it or was your idea?  Consider that he probably has conflicted feelings about the whole affair, let alone a dance.

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m team “don’t do it” unless you have specifically asked and he’s enthusiastic about it. Not the “uh, yeah sure” that they are likely to say…I’m talking like are really into the idea.

As a wedding photographer I can’t tell you how many times this goes south. And it’s not just for step kids. The number of times I’ve seen a parent do a dance with *their own* young child, and the child gets emotional, and then it progressively gets worse because they’re so embarrassed they got emotional. Oof…it’s never good. I have had it happen at so many weddings. I had a wedding a couple years ago where the groom was doing a dance with his daughter who was around 10ish. She started to cry, and everyone else got teary thinking it was a sweet moment…until she started to hysterically sob to the point she couldn’t catch her breath because she was soooo embarrassed to have gotten emotional in front of a whole wedding. It killed the vibe and I felt so bad for the little girl. 

Post # 18
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2290 posts
Buzzing bee

I think you need to do what you and he feel comfortable with. No one here knows your backstory and what is/isn’t weird for your relationship with him. Some kids accept a step parent early on because they fill a void, others need time, others never do and there’s everything in between. I hope your day goes how you want it to! 

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