Post # 1
I’ve committed to the Christmas Challenge and I shall keep my commitment. But, man this holiday thing!! Don’t let me get my hopes up here. My SO is out of town for Thanksgiving to see his family. I could not go this year because of work and I have an aunt in Hospice. He just wrote me and said the following (cut and pasted):
Got you something amazing, but you will have to wait for Santa to deliver it. Can you guess? If you do guess right, I’ll be pissed!
Now naturally being a female I immediately think: ring!!
Don’t let me go there – tell me not to get the hopes up. I don’t think he’s ready YET. He said he wants to do it when he’s ready to do it and for it to be his idea. His previous marriage didn’t go down like that. He didn’t propose to her, she just started telling everyone they were engaged and she, according to him, “was so aggressive and wouldn’t let it go so I gave in and I knew it was a mistake but I didn’t listen to my intuition.” Well, he was right, it was a mistake. But back to me –
Just wanted to rant to folks who understand. I don’t want to get my hopes up and be let down. I’m not mentioning “it” at all. I’m being a good girl.
Post # 3
Hehe well I don’t want to tell you not to be excited and to ruin your fun but I would just try to think of any single thing else that it could possibly be and just try to get excited about that *just in case*. Then its a win-win situation. If you don’t get the ring you wouldn’t have built your hopes up incredibly high to get them shattered on a holiday and if it is a ring, then that is awesome!!!
I had this problem over my birthday. He told me he had this big dinner planned and that we needed our gps because we had to go out of town for the surprise and that I needed to get dressed up. I was sure that he was going to propose then and it ended up not being a proposal at all. At dinner when he started pulling my present out of his pocket he even said “don’t get excited, its not a ring”. My birthday present ended up being nice but obviously nowhere near as exciting as a ring, so I spent the rest of the evening sad but I tried not to let it show. Ugh, waiting is so horrible!
Post # 4
That’s a good idea. I told him I wanted PX90 – I hope that’s not it. I wouldn’t characterize that as “amazing.” He’s shopping OUT somewhere because he was telling me what he bought for his family. They were with him, and he bought them a TV. YEP, a TV. I know my gift isn’t a TV because he’s moving in with me in a few months so we’d have way too many TV’s. I have 3 already and he’s got a big fat flat screen.
So we don’t think it’s a TV.
We don’t think it’s PX90.
Could be an iPad. Oh dear.
that would be amazing.
Post # 5
Ohhh an ipad! That would be something to get excited for! I’m thinking about getting my boyfriend and ipad for christmas too! Sounds to me like it could be a ring too but like you said, being a girl that is always my first thought. And I obviously have been wrong before. Just don’t let it ruin your day if its not like how I let it ruin my birthday.
Post # 6
Just breathe! I know how you feel. I failed the challenge today when I asked if he’s bought my present already and he said don’t ask me about anything that rhymes with sing!LMAO
Just TRY to put it out of your head. Concentrate on anything!LOL
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I asked him for a “hint” – he just said “it’s on your wishlist, or is it?” When I told him that was the lamest hint I had ever heard he said “It’ll have to do for now.”
You’re right MsMamaBear – I need to put it out of my mind.
Hey, I have a question – what’s a trinity ring? A friend of mine got one……..well, she’s more of an acquaintance.
Post # 8
I’m not sure, but I think it’s for your past, present and future. 🙂 Cute idea!
Post # 9
Oooh I feel your pain!! My bf did the same thing, said, “I know what I’m getting you for Christmas!” and then the only hint he gives me is, “It’s something I know you want.” Gahh!! I know know know it won’t be a ring but I’m hoping anyways. The only things I’ve said I want are: Engagement ring, puppy, house. I have a feeling it’s none of those, lol.
Pat on the back to you for being a good girl and not mentioning it at all!! And hey, whatever it is, you have an amazing present to look forward to on Christmas 🙂
Post # 10
he just called and I asked him what his family got him for Christmas. They went ahead and exchanged gifts because he’s not going back to visit them for Christmas. He said “I can’t tell you.” I asked him why in the world he couldn’t tell me what they got HIM for Christmas. He said “it’s all connected.” so I’m thinking – matching ipads?
I like you list – engagement ring, puppy, house. Good ones! I can’t believe I said P90X, cowboy boots, iPad. Those are the only 3 I can think of. He said, “You’ve been saying things all along that I’ve remembered.”
Post # 11
I’m reviving this thread of mine. I know a lot of us are in the final countdown here – wonder if Saturday will be the day. I also wonder about New Year’s Eve – I’m sure I’m not alone.
So I thought I’d throw out some additional hints he’s given me. First, let me say that I realize that I’m grasping for straws and it probably won’t happen but it’s kind of fun to dream, yes? The strangest thing to me is the fact that he can’t tell me what his family got HIM for Christmas. I tried to throw him off this weekend and said “so what did you say they got you?” He of course was too smart and said “I didn’t say.” I find this hint kind of odd.
He said it was: sexy, creative, verstaile, something I want. Those were prior hints. This weekend he said “you’ll be the envy of your friends.” “They’ll look at it and go woooooa! I want one one those” (when he said this he looked “down” – not at my fingers but down as if looking at someone’s hands), he said “it’s really big.” I said “big in dimensions?” he laughed and said he wasn’t going to tell me anymore. He also said “you feed it.” Then he said some of his hints were real and some were crap.
The only other hint I have is when I asked if it was something he would like to see me wear he said “you could say that.”
Another odd thing happening, but probably again is wishful thinking, is suddenly we have a trip on New Year’s eve. we are meeting a relative that he hasn’t seen in a long time – the meeting point being 1/2 way between where they live and we live (about 3.5 hour drive). This came up out of the blue and when I ask about the reservations as to where we are staying, he doesn’t have anything to tell me. He’s kind of “vague.” And, New Year’s eve is only a couple weeks (less now) away….I would think he’d be more concerned about ressies. He did start looking with me there at this really really exquisite 5 star place. But, he put in the dates and it said no availability. I don’t know….
A couple of times this weekend, “weddings” and “marriage” came up BUT NOT ABOUT me and him. Just about it in general.
So at the risk of sounding like a total fool. I have one theory. His family (sister) may have given him his mom’s ring (she passed away) to give to me. I’m certain she got it because she pretty much got everything. maybe that’s why he can’t tell me what they got him. he was there for t-giving (I couldn’t go due to a sick family member) and the norm would be for him to rush home and show me his gift. they exchanged during t-giving because he’s staying with me for xmas.
Any thoughts? If not, I’m glad I got a chance to write this anyway – it was therapeutic.
Afraid to get my hopes up FOR SURE.
Post # 12
Sounds like they are already up and I can totally understand why they would be. What does your gut tell you? Try and push your anticipation out of the way for a moment to see what it says?
I am with you on this feeling. My FH came home from a office Christmas party a couple of weeks ago and had had a couple of drinks. He let it slip that he was planning on proposing while we are down south for NYE/MY birthday.
Now my hopes are up as well. I really want a surprize proposal though so in a really strange way… I kind of hope he doesn’t propose there now … lol
Post # 13
You’re right – hopes are “up” but realistically my Head knows my Heart is probably wrong. WOW – NYE – your birthday? That’s perfect. I know what you mean, now that you”know” it’s not going to be a surprise. But at least it’s happening. Does he remember he let it slip or did he forget that he told you? 🙂
Did forget a couple more of my hints :
“you can’t take it back so if you don’t like it………”
We went out this weekend for dinner/drinks and we were getting ready to go upstairs to take our showers. He started to say something, in fact he mumbled something. I just looked at him and he put his hand in his pants pocket….and then said “shoot, I was about to give away your christmas present.” He seemed kind of flitty and nervous.
I just ignored him….acted like he wasn’t acting strange. He seems to be hopping from subject to subject a lot.
Do men start acting strange or nervous – just strange in general before the big moment? I have no experience with this as my first husband didn’t actually propose. Just kind of “assumed and told me we were getting married after 4 months of dating.” Well, that’s another story.
This is tortue girls – only 5 more days!!!! Shall we waiting girls make a pact to post at some point on Christmas to let the others know if/what happened?
Post # 14
@prshadow: I have a trinity ring. It does indeed symbolize past, present & future. It’s three stones in a row (usually all the same size, although sometimes the middle one — present — is larger).
As for your present…try to think of something else! I know from experience that if you are constantly looking for the proposal, it’s less exciting. : /