First off, glad to hear you are ok now…
That must have been a bit of a scare.
Second… NEWS FLASH, not only do some US States not recognize same-sex marriages, they don’t recognized Common Law Relationships either (federally).
Here in Canada, a ton of us are Common Law vs traditional marriage (not a very religious country overall).
My Elderly Dad discovered how bad this was when he was travelling in the US with his Common Law “wife”. She wasn’t feeling well so he took her to the Hospital. While they were in the Waiting Room all was ok. BUT he wasn’t allowed back with her when she was being treated… and when things got much worse for her, things also got worse for him as well. She had a heart attack, and went unconscious. It was quite clear, that she wasn’t going to make it, so one kind Doctor took pity on my Dad and let him come in the room to say his “BRIEF Good-Byes”… then out he had to skoot.
She passed away without him… he sitting alone in the Waiting Room
After it was over, they came and told him… and he asked to see her again. The answer was NO… as they weren’t married he wasn’t family. My poor father had to leave the hospital, and go home and call her side of the family. The hospital, insurance, etc wouldn’t deal with my Dad at all, because THEY WERE NOT MARRIED… so in the USA their relationship meant zip, zero, zilch !!
It was truly heart breaking for my Dad.
This is part of the reason that Mr TTR and I are getting married now after so many years of being Common Law Partners. We travel alot, and go to the US frequently. And we want to protect ourselves incase we ever find ourselves in need of medical assitance
Lol, and it would also be nice to stop the harassment that we get from US Border Agents (especially when we are flying) as we are not married. The US Declaration Form says ONE PER FAMILY HOUSEHOLD… we have been repeatedly told we are not a family, because we are not married, so we must file seperately.
I agree that individual US States should step up to the plate on giving EVERYONE the ability to marry, but it should also do more (across the board) to recognize those who chose an otherwise recognized alternative to marriage as well.
Just my 2 cents.