(Closed) Dang… Two special occasions go by, and then he drops some downer news!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

He could be trying to purposefully throw you off. My now Fiance did that to me. He had asked me a million times what my ring size was between the end of July and September and here he had bought the ring (in the wrong size) at the end of June beginning of July!

Post # 5
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@KhaleesiStormborn: I am a size 4.5! My SO was like “do they even make engagement rings that small?” I was like …….

Anyway, I am thinking he could be trying to throw you off too, but if not, darn! Hopefully he just wants one special day for the proposal and didnt want to associate it with your bday and anniversary.

A friend of mine just got engaged 2 weeks after their 2 year and 3 days after her birthday- so it’s possible!!

Post # 6
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@KhaleesiStormborn:  My Fiance told me he needed me to get my ring size measured, and that he wanted me to make sure in-store that I still liked the style we’d talked about.  Off I go to the mall, have my finger measured, and try on a few rings.  Little did I know that it was a fake-out.  He’d already BOUGHT the ring, and here I thought he was just getting started on shopping around.  When he proposed 2 weeks later, I was absolutely floored.

I wouldn’t rule out that he’s just trying to throw you off.


Post # 8
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@KhaleesiStormborn:  My Fiance is also a terrible liar! But, he got one over on me 🙂

Post # 9
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I also hope it’s just another fake-out!

Mine was so obsessive about it being a secret he GUESSED my ring size! And guessed 1.5 sizes too big!

Post # 12
2447 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

He could totally be faking you out. Before we got engaged, I was walking around the mall with my husband and we popped into one of those chain jewelry stores because of a funny sign. I was looking at the ring display and pointing out diamonds and he pretended like he’d never even been in a jewelry store. I was sure that we certainly weren’t getting engaged anytime soon. He proposed 2 weeks later with a ring he’d been working on for months. 

Post # 13
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@KhaleesiStormborn:  I have to say – I had something similar with my fiance. We talked about it for a while because we wanted to live together and that would never happen before an engagement/marriage. We also are just very ready to spend our time together because we feel so lucky to have found one another!

Well, of course there is the initial “I can’t propose to you now because we just talked about it” time you have to wait. Then events start happening and you keep thinking, “Now? Now?” Then weeks after all of that you become a little frustrated (I have had many friends go through this cycle). You know about crazy girlfriendzillas who are constantly needling their boyfriends to propose and you are desperately trying to be the cool girlfriend and not worry about it. It’s going to happen, so why stress?

Well for me it got stressful because I was putting things on hold, waiting to get engaged. Example: do you want new bed linens for you birthday? Well – no because we might move in together and I won’t need linens anymore. Okay, well what could you use? I don’t know.. we probably will need some things for the apartment but I don’t know what they are since we haven’t moved in together yet! Haha. Or it would be cleaning/organizing things. Do you still want these baskets? No, but maybe I will when I move into an apartment with my fiance. etc. etc. etc.

To the point where I broke down and talked to him about it. Turns out he was so freaked out about finding a ring I liked and surprising me he had just been avoiding it like the plague. I don’t like diamonds and he had no idea what else to do. So I found the stone and gave him my father and family-guy-friend’s phone numbers for him to call. He designed his own ring and several months later proposed in a very awesome way I will never forget!

Point is – I was stressing but also didn’t realize he was stressing out about it too. He loved me so much he wanted everything to be perfect. And in the end, it was. But guys put so much pressure on themselves! I suggested to my fiance that he talk to some guys in his life and he never had even thought about it. So does your boyfriend have guys that are married/engaged or people he can talk to for advice? Maybe that will help!

Post # 15
1469 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@KhaleesiStormborn:  I think he’s just throwing you off! I had been almost certain that my Fiance had ordered the ring since he had gone to the jewelers and brought back an official envelope. He pretty much said he bought the ring that day. But then the day of the proposal, I kind of screwed myself by showing him this ad for a trunk show where you could get a free iPad and other stuff with your e-ring purchase. He totally acted like he hadn’t even ordered the ring yet, saying he wanted to go to the trunk show, etc. When not only had he ordered the ring, he had it with him. Doh!

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