Dark finger joints – hate showing my ring now! Help!

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 2
5049 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Hi Bee, I am sorry this is bothering you.  I do not have much experience with this as I am extremely pale however I have seen online concoctions involving lemon juice (I believe) to brighten skin.  I’d probably keep my hands well moisturized which will help improve skin texture and possibly decrease the visibility of creases/joints. Though, I think at best you may need to find acceptance and increased love and appreciation for your own unique characteristics.


Post # 3
4910 posts
Honey bee

cthomp442 :  They do make creams but I think most likely you’re being too hard on yourself. I’m pale but my fingertips tend to get red and my hands have red parts to them and wrinkly finger joints.

I realised that that’s just how my hands are and while I do moisturize often and try to care for them with oils and sunscreen I just live with it (I have hand eczema as well). So try oils and hand treatments to moisturize and pamper them. I find it helps. If it truly bothers you a lot ask the dermatologist what’s safe to do. I think those lightening creams may be unsafe. 


Post # 4
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I get that you are sensitive about this, my hands are not pretty.  I am 36, and did a lot of sun worshipping without sunblock when younger. 

That said,  I try to accept my hands as they are and I don’t let it kkeep me from posting ring pics here on the bee because I love my rings and whatever their imperfections , those hands are mine. 

That said, have you tried the Ambi fade cream, I have a friend who swears by it. 

Post # 5
648 posts
Busy bee

I think everyone gets self conscious about their fingers/hands once there is a ring on there! I’m sure no one else is noticing what you are 🙂 

Post # 6
628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I have this issue on my feet.  I read too much exfoliating can actually make it worse, but I’ve noticed moisturizer does improve the appearance.  Try putting on moisturizer before bed and then putting on thin cotton gloves (they make some for this purpose).  I also had luck with BabyFoot for my feet (it’s gross but it works!), not sure if there is a hand version.


Otherwise, everyone is probably right – no one notices except you.  When you show off the ring, everyone will be looking at your sparkly anyway! 

Post # 7
125 posts
Blushing bee

I think this is probably one of those things that seems so obvious to you, but no-one else would ever notice. I think my hands are a bit manly, but nobody else thinks they are.

Skin lightening creams are not good for you, can cause damage, and are usually ineffective at actually lightening your skin. 

You’ve said that you know this “isn’t how your skin is”, but unless you have a skin condition then it probably is. If you genuinely think you have a skin condition, then see a doctor and they may be able to help. Otherwise, short of using hand moisturiser to prevent dry skin, there isn’t anything you can do. You probably just have darker knuckles because you have olive skin. 

I’m almost certain that if you posted a picture of your hand, all we would see is a normal hand. 

Post # 8
2644 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

cthomp442 :  use scrub, like st ives apricot scrub, on your hands evey day and use lotion like you need it to live, that should helpand also make your hands just feel nicer and more comfortable 

Post # 9
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

cthomp442 :  Sorry this is bothering you, bee. As a PP said, I’m sure it is one of those things that nobody else notices, but I get that you are unhappy. 

No ideas about permanent solutions, but when people take photos, have you considered bending your fingers so that your knuckles are stretched out? That might minimise the look of the darker skin there. 

Post # 10
2504 posts
Sugar bee

Please don’t change your skin color — there is nothing wrong with it! Your hands are perfect how they are. Wear your ring proudly. 

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