Post # 1
Hi, lovely bees! HELP!
While my fiance was deployed, we sent our Save the Dates for February 2011 in October 2010. His mother didn’t feel comfortable telling me or him that she didn’t like the date until she could do it altogether, face to face… in November 2010. She gave an ultimatum to change it or she wouldn’t come. Sigh. The date is now February 2012.
In December, my FI was stationed in a new city, and I moved for grad school. We have made new friends that are only going to get closer. We can’t imagine not inviting them to our wedding but we can’t afford the expense of 30 more guests. Our list is already maxed out at 240 who received STDs– some who were close when we graduated a year ago and are less of a part of our lives now. I want to trade some people out so badly, but that feels insanely rude!
Post # 3
I felt the very same way, but decided to go with the original people that I actually sent STD’s too. I thought that would be a bit awkward for me to send STD’s and no invitations. I started to regret it and actually felt like I jumped the gun. My invites went out this past Sat. Hopefully it all works out!
Post # 4
@specialklove: i think you’re right. back in february, i thought my guest list was just perfect. now i’m so disappointed. i will stick with what i have bc it doesn’t feel like a choice. maybe those not as close won’t make the trip and i can squeeze in my newer loves! are you making a pseudo A/B list for them?
Post # 5
first off we are getting married on the same date… and second, just have the RSVP’s due back extra early so when people RSVP no you can send out an invite to a new friend… just an idea.
Post # 6
This is making me more & more certain I don’t want to send out Save-The-Date Cards.
Post # 7
@kay01: TOTALLY haha. i definitely don’t regret it, though! his family is from jamaica and we have lots of friends in the army. the advance notice was a biggie. also, we’ve lost 2 guys from our wedding party, and, silly or not, it feels good to me that even though they won’t get to see our invitations or be there on the big day, they got *something* from our wedding.
@AshleyB: good idea. i think that’s what we’re going to do… honestly, not many other options for this one ; )