Date change and fighting with my sister MOH!

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
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Helper bee

You will  never convince her that your fiance was trying to help.   You are sisters he should have not got into it with her.   

She is wrong about giving you a hard time.  Its your wedding and you can have it when you want.  If you and your fiance are happy that is all that should matter to you.   She can have whatever feelings she wants about it.   Just keep them to herself.

 

People are being encouraging because they are keeping their true thoughts to themselves.   Which is what adults do.   Internally they may or may not be thinking a wedding in approx 10 weeks on a Monday in March…undecided

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

saarnlo :  was the original date also a Monday? Does she live locally? Have kids who go to school?

Tbh I wouldn’t be too thrilled to go to a Monday wedding, but of course I wouldn’t say that to the bride. If it’s local I probably will go, well, depends on the time. If it’s a trip I won’t do it. But shes your sister so she has to.

Just let her be I guess, if your march wedding date is set, though it’s not very clear that it is. But since you want a Monday I don’t assume it will be difficult to get a venue. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Did you even check with your VIPS (like your bridal party) that that date would work for them? Or did you just tell them we have changed the wedding date to xyz date?

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

Your fi should not have gotten involved. Blood deals with blood, don’t let him try to “mediate” in your familys issues in the future. 

Monday weddings are inconvenient. Moving the date after people had already made plans for it is inconvenient. Maybe everyone else is grumbling behind your back and she’s the only one who will say it to your face? 

At this point, if your plans are set just keep on keepin on. If she puts up a fight, just ignore and deflect. “monday weddings are so rude” “I’m sorry you feel that way, it’s what works best for us.” “No one will want to go on a bachelorette trip AFTER the wedding” “Yeah, maybe, we can let the girls decide for themselves.” Part of being an adult is owning your choices and standing up for yourself. If this is truly what you and your fi want, then own that. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Agree with PPs that your Fiance shouldn’t have gotten involved in this one. She’s your sister, you need to deal with her. 

Also I can’t say I’d be thrilled about a march Monday wedding. The ones who are “showing support” are likely just keeping their opinions to themselves, like PP said. Your sister did not keep her opinion to herself. 

Bottom line is that it’s your wedding. If you want it on a Monday in March then do that; however, don’t expect everyone to be able to make it. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

A Monday in March would not faze me. Probably doesn’t faze the rest of your family either 

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