(Closed) Date Night and Quality Time

posted 13 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We aren’t married, but we have been dating for 5 years, so we try and switch up the dats as mush as possible. We are in it forever and want to keep things interesting. So typically we do dinner, a movie, game night (scrabble is my favorite), but then we like trying new things like going to sporting events, shows, concerts, road trips, visting places with meaning, hiking, etc. etc. We try to balance big nights out with more budget friendly dates. My favorite thing to do is go back to our alma mater and walk through campus, which is free and my favorite. I also like picnics on the beach. Those are my favorite cheaperr dates, but I still love getting dressed up for special occasions. We celebrate little things like our first date and our first kiss and turn them into big events.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You HAVE to have date nights. We still do. We schedule them and come up with a plan. Often one of us "asks out" the other, so that person plans it all and pays (which is a gag, since it’s all the same money). We sometimes come up with themes for the date and the other tries to guess what it is. We do it to celebrate, when life gets stressful for one of us, or when we simply realize that we haven’t done it in a while. It’s fun. And otherwise, it’s just too easy to keep saying "tomorrow, next weekend."

We commute to work together, and even though we’re usually just commenting on whatever is on NPR, it’s time I really enjoy. We also (usually) cook dinner together and do the dishes together. It gives us extra time to spend together (and of course it makes the work go quicker). We also try to avoid eating dinner in front of the tv or spending too much time in front of the tv in general. It just doesn’t feel like time spent "together" when we’re just zoned out. But we do have a couple of shows we both enjoy, and we’ll watch those together. We also try to go to bed together, although that’s not always possible. Pillow talk before falling asleep is priceless.

And sometimes, there’s nothing better than getting home from work, stripping down, crawling in bed together, and forgetting about everything else going on.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Peachypear, theme nights sound fun! What kind of themes do you do?

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not trying to offend anyone or anything, but for some of these posts under the Newlywed Boards I’m having a hard time being able to tell if the comments are all coming from married people or not.  It seems like some of these topics are being answered by everyone, so it’s a little difficult to get advice from fellow marrieds.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

Ah sorry about the confusion!  Maybe we also need a board for topics that are about Relationships, but not necessarily just for Newlyweds?

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I love this board (and this topic).  Tonight is our date night.  We just had an at-home sit-down dinner of Chicken Kiev, potatoes au gratin, and veggies.  In just a little while, we are heading out to see Slumdog Millionaire.  Later, after the movie, we’ll come home and I will serve us some rum cream (from our honeymoon in Jamaica last month), and rest of the night is up to your imagination.

We also eat together every night, most times in front of the T.V. but sometimes (like tonight) we’ll clear off the dining room table and make it a little more formal.  We eat out a lot, but not as much lately, as I am trying to lose a little (40 lbs.) before trying to conceive.

Once a week, he plays a hockey game and I go to watch.  While we are not exactly "together", I think of together as any experience we can share with each other.  About every other week, we will do a home movie night.  We pull a movie off of the On-Demand, pop some popcorn, and cuddle up on the couch with our down comforter and chihuahuas.  After the movie, we push the couches together and make what call a "super couch" and, well, I will again leave the rest to your imagination.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My Fiance has a Blockbuster membership, so we watch a lot of movies together. One thing I’m hoping to get into is exercising together — either going on walks or joining a gym. We’ll see if I can persuade him. haha …

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We love having dinner together- then watching TV.

 I’d like to start doing a date night though.  Now that we’ve been married three months I’ve noticed we are starting more and more to do our own things- which is good- but I want there to be a night that we just focus on each other.

Post # 25
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Helper bee

My fiancee and I eat dinner at home most nights together, and also usually watch TV or a movie on the couch.  We talk a lot during these times. We also do a lot of outdoor activities together on the weekends (snow shoeing, hiking, etc) and do a lot of family stuff together.  I like date nights, too, though because I love getting dressed up and going out together.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t see my Fiance during the week due to work schedules.  On the weekends we’re usually busy with family/friend events.  If not we’ll go out to dinner, or make dinner, watch television (usually a comedy show), play monopoly (I always lose!), then snuggle in bed ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Vineyard on the Delta

we eat out all the time because i like food.  he also tries to give me time to cook dinner for us coz… well, i like food.  we watch minimal TV, but we’re taking a volleyball class together once a week at the local community college!

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

My husband and I work together, and we both work at home, so we are around each other allllll the time. Like, the same room together almost all day and night during the week.

That said, sometimes we find out that we really "miss" each other-like we are together but not connecting. We don’t have any specific times set out when we hang out just as a couple, but we do it any time we can. Early weekend morning matinees at the movies, lazy Friday nights out for a drink, etc. etc. Mondays when we just say, forget work, it’s time to hang out.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2022

My husband and I work really long hours during the day, often times we’ll be gone 15-16 hours during the week so quality time can be hard to come by.  Here are some of the activities that we like to do when we can squeeze them in.  My husband and I love to go to Barnes and Nobles and just climb into the chairs and read books and discuss them.  I like bringing a hot mug of hot chocolate with me ๐Ÿ™‚  It’s a great date and its free!  The library works the same too.

Another favorite date is turning on some music, making some yummy snack foods/finger foods together and then playing card games/board games or doing puzzles together.

I highly recommend looking into some favorite organizations to volunteer with together.  Food pantry, Habitat for Humanity, Soup Kitchens…My husband and I volunteered together for Cradles to Crayons and we loved going and cleaning and testing toys and making up care packages for kids.

We also like doing outdoorsy or athletic things together.  My husband is an incredible ice hockey player so I’ll go watch his games or we’ll go skating together.  We also like to rock climb indoors together.  It’s a great couple activity as it teaches you communication and trust.  We’ll go bike riding or play tennis in the summer.  We also will go hiking.  We try to coordinate our workouts as much as possible so that we can lift or run together.  We also take a yoga class together on the weekend (he humors me). 

 Other things we do are running a lot of errands together over the weekends, church activities, occasionally we’ll go shopping or to a movie.  Every now and then we’ll snuggle up and watch a tv show or a movie at home.

It’s funny, lately I’ve felt like we’ve had no quality time and all we’ve been doing is work but I guess looking at this list, we do more together than either of us realize.  I guess what really matters is just making the time you do have together count.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

Maybe you could give him shoulder rubs… ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 31
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Worker bee

We eat together most nights, unless one of us has plans without the other, rent or go see a movie once a wee kor so, take walks, eat out too often, general couply things.  True, not married yet, but we’ve been together for 3 years and living together for 6 months, so I am happy that we are able to enjoy so much time together still ๐Ÿ™‚

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