Post # 1
I’m starting to realize (I say this tongue in cheek, because I’ve always know this) that I’m the planner in the relationship. I plan our date nights, I plan our vacations, I make 90% of the suggestions for activites, etc.
WHY I would be upset at this is beyond me (and quite ridiculous)… especially because I’m usually happier when I plan things…. but I do find myself annoyed from time to time and wishing that DH would do more planning. (I’ve asked him to – told him it’s important – and he does make an effort – but I feel like it’s just easier for me to say: hey, take me to “X” spot -and he does – so, it’s a win-win. Not a very romantic method, but it accomplishes the task). 🙂
But, it made me curious, if I’m all alone or if others in the hives are the “Planners” in their relationship.
Post # 3
We are both “planners” so we typically plan things together because we both like being involved in that aspect of things.
Post # 4
@oracle: I think you are my twin that just wrote this post.
Same deal here!
Post # 5
Fiance usually plans vacations, oh, who am I kidding, he ALWAYS plans vacations. Date nights are not planned very often because we live together and don’t have kids, so we are together often anyway.
Post # 6
@oracle: Haha, I have no words of wisdom for you because what you just said… That is my life. I feel the same exact way you do. I make the plans and then I get annoyed that I’m the only one making plans. And yes, I’ve told him I feel this way and no, it doesn’t make any sense.
Post # 7
Nobody plans them. Our date nights consist of sitting on the couch with a bottle of wine and our DVR. Which is exceptionally lame, but we can never decide on anything else to do. When we lived in NY, we would go out a lot more and we planned it together. I think now we’re kind of in denial of the fact that we have to drive places, so we don’t go. (sadly, we left NY 3 years ago this month… apparently we are in a lot of denial)
We plan our vacations together. I tend to handle the logistical stuff and he handles the social stuff. Almost all of our vacations are visiting family or going to weddings, so there’a lot of social stuff to plan, but I do all the transit.
Post # 8
Date nights are up to whoever’s week it is–we trade off grocery shopping/menu planning/dinner prep by weeks, so each Friday it’s up to that person.
Vacations and activities, I usually think of something and suggest it because I tend to be on the lookout for stuff to do, but if we decide to take turns on something he’s usually good about coming up with a plan 🙂
Post # 9
I’m so glad I’m not alone in this!!!! A few months ago, I was getting super peeved at him. I felt he wasn’t ‘hearing’ me – and then I had this lightbulb moment where I realized he NEVER plans so why do I expect him to all of a sudden turn into a planner?
That doesn’t mean I don’t get frustrated and sometimes wish I married a planner!!!