(Closed) Date of a Christmastime Wedding

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should my wedding be on Friday, December 22 or Saturday, December 23?

    Friday, December 22

    Saturday, December 23

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Honestly unless you were immediate family and we all lived in the same area, I would decline to attend at either of hose dates. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Both of those are really tough dates. Do you have an idea of how many of your guests would realistically be able to attend?

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    My brother is getting married a week before Christmas this year and people are pretty annoyed. It’s hard to get time off that time of year for a lot of people and travel is way more expensive and even dangerous depending on where you live. People also tend to already have a lot going on around then. I would pick an entirely different month if you can’t do it any earlier in December.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Could you plan it for after Christmas? I think more people would be able/willing to attend on Sat Dec 30 compared to Sat Dec 23. Or could you pick any date in January?

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    brownleebride1127 :   This may not be helpful, but unless you were an immediate family member, I’d decline either date.  

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    brownleebride1127 :  I would decline either of those dates if it required any travel whatsoever. Christmas is so busy and often people are traveling ON those dates or they have family coming. I’d suggest choosing dates during another time. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I think if most of your family/friends are local then either date isn’t going to make much difference, if they are around they will come if not they won’t, but for anyone travelling I think it may be tough. I wouldn’t be able to travel for either of the dates above but if it was in my city I could make either work.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Unless you were immediate family OR lived in my hometown where I’d be visiting family I probably wouldn’t travel for a wedding that close to Christmas (I also generally don’t like travelling around Christmas)

    I would prefer Friday night to saturday the 23rd though

    Post # 10
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    Newbee

    I think you should choose what is best for you and your immediate families (parents, brothers and sisters). The thing is, if someone wants to be there for you they will be there no matter if they have to take days off or travel.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    mrsparis :  That is just not true. Some people (think retail) are blacked out from taking off any time from work in the lead up to Christmas. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    boy…. those are some tough dates, bee. I am saying this as a bee with a bday of Dec 24th. Even planning a birthday party in December is difficult, let alone a wedding.

    I would seriously wait until after Xmas. I did go to a wedding on New Years Eve one year which was highly fun. I don’t know if that’s an option for you, but some food for thought. Others may feel differently, though…

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    mrsparis :  That is not true at all. There are people who cannot take off time around the holidays. There are people who other commitments around that time. And people have budgets. Loving someone and wanting to be there for them does not magically get rid of the obstacles preventing someone from doing something they might very much want to do but can’t.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    Is it possible for you to find a different venue with better availability in December of next year? I would be really bummed if you were a close friend with either of those dates, as it would be really hard for me to be there for your wedding. In some cases it would mean choosing between attending your wedding and seeing my family for Christmas.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    mrsparis :  “The thing is, if someone wants to be there for you they will be there no matter if they have to take days off or travel.”

    not true, and a very dangerous assumption to make. Airfare around the holidays is prohibitively expensive for many, and, as others have noted, some employers have blackout restrictions for leave time. No matter what time of year, it’s foolish and unfair to assume that a guest who cannot attend doesn’t want to be there for you.

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