(Closed) Date of a Christmastime Wedding

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should my wedding be on Friday, December 22 or Saturday, December 23?

    Friday, December 22

    Saturday, December 23

  • Post # 16
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    Newbee

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    Horseradish :  
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    Kaymar :  You are right I shouldn’t have assumed anything but where I am from the parents and siblings get a free day (when they show officially that a family member is getting married). My comment was based off of that. I will not assume that someone who is not there did not want to be there but I think a close family member (for me is parents and siblings) will do what works in order to be there (but I guess depending on where they live..). Where I live we have the european labor law and you have a lot of rights here. 

    Post # 17
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2016 - October 2017

    I suggest changing your month all together. Families are often strapped for cash during Christmas time. Not to mention traveling is going to be expensive around Christmas, out of town visitors probably won’t attend, some of your guests may not be in town for that date as people travel the week of Christmas. I just don’t see it going well for you at all unfortunately 

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I think either of those dates will be tough, and that’s coming from someone who had a December wedding. Ours was the weekend before Christmas. I think it comes down to knowing your crowd and how many people would actually come from out of town. We picked a day that the very few family members from out of town would be coming in for Christmas anyway, and all of the friends we invited have the same work schedule as my husband and I so they already had the weekend off. We basically lucked into a date that worked for everyone. Good luck!

    Post # 19
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I wouldn’t go to either date unless we we close family, especially if traveling was involved.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t go, it’s impossible to take off more work and even if it’s in town everyone is swamped the week of Chirstmas. We actually celebrate Christmas the 22nd and 23rd in my family….

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

    I could never go on either of those dates. My work will not allow me to take those days off, period. Even if I were in a different situation, unless you were my immediate family I would not go. That’s just asking waaaaay too much of people. 

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2004

    I wouldn’t attend either date unless we were super close and local.  Even then, honestly I’d be super annoyed.  I am ridiculously busy at that time of year, as are most people.  I’d really reconsider that weekend.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    mrsparis :  nope sometimes situations are too difficult and have nothing to do with how much you care for the couple. Having this assumption just leads to disappointment.

    OP as many others said, it may not be helpful but both dates are very difficult. I would choose a date after Christmas, or after all winter holidays if possible.

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Having had a holiday wedding (Dec 29th), some people will be able to make it and some won’t. But I think that is the case with any wedding. 

    Post # 25
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    Newbee

    My SO’s sister got married on a saturday 5 days before Christmas. While I was able to attend, it was extremely inconvenient. I work in a bakery, and there was NO WAY I could take that day or the day after off, since it’s the busy season. I was also exhausted from working extended hours because of it being busy, and couldn’t fully enjoy the wedding. While Christmas time weddings are beautiful, anything that close to the actual date is putting your guests out unneccesarily. 

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Honestly, unless you were my sister I’d decline. I live upnorth where we get gnarly winters so I tend to not travel around then. Roads are dangerous and flights are always delayed. Plus, my work is busy near Christmas so PTO is limited and I save it to spend at home with family. I’d pick a different time. 

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee

     

    That weekend is all about travel, baking, final errands, etc for me. If I had to pick, the Friday would be the least evil of the two because traveling home from a wedding on Christmas Eve would be awful (sorry!)

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

    Normally I always say Saturday so you aren’t asking people to book a day off work…but in this case I’d say Friday…one extra day before Christmas weekend wouldn’t hurt. I think there is nothing more romantic than an intimate wedding around Christmas…but I may be a little biased because my great-grandparents got married on Christmas Day.

    I know this isn’t what this thread is about, but I would LOVE to know more about your wedding ideas and hom much ‘Christmas Spirit’ you’re going to incorporate!

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I would much prefer the Friday. I would want the 23 to do other Christmas related things before the 24. 

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would have a tough time with either of those dates, but Friday is definitely the lesser of the two “evils”😉

    As PP suggested, why not after Christmas? We got married on December 30th, which worked out really well-venue was still decorated and it didn’t interfere with NYE plans.

    Just my .2 cents. 

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