Post # 1
FI and I decided we weren’t doing STD. We just didn’t really feel like we needed to or that we HAD to have them. I like them but I wasn’t stressing over them. My mom’s family lives all over, some pretty far up North and some pretty far down South and FI has one uncle out of state…….so the moms (his included) decided why don’t we do “Date Reminders” to just those out of state………hmmmm okay
I’m not going to spend a ton of money on these and we did just get our engagement pictures back so I went on Vistaprint and made some cute ones up and as I was getting ready to order I started wondering……is this really tacky? I mean send out these things ONLY to out of state family and one elderly great uncle of mine???? Or is it a good idea because then they have adequate time to make their travel arrangements (although knowing my family, they’re so darn excited they had their flights and hotels booked before we got engaged since they all knew it was coming).
I mean I’ll do because it means so much to the moms but does it seem weird?? Maybe I’m overthinking it.
Post # 3
@MrsFarm0619: As I understand it, Save the Dates came about for exactly this reason. They don’t have to go to EVERYONE on your guest list, just the ones that will need to travel to get to your wedding, so they have a longer time to plan.
Post # 4
@ nadnuk I didn’t realize that! Well then I don’t feel so akward about it! Thanks for the info!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Just seems like at that point you might as well just send out STDs.
Post # 6
If these family members already know about your upcoming wedding I don’t see the point of sending anything. I’m sure if you called or send an e-mail they can just write it on their calender, that way you don’t have to spend ANY money! Or you could send the photo electronically and they can print it off if they want to or just keep in on their conputers.
Post # 7
I agree they are STD no matter how you look at it.
Yes, all of my family does know so I’m not sure why in the hell I’m doing this other than keeping the moms happy.
However nadnuk had a good point about why STD came about in the first place.
Post # 8
@MrsFarm0619: The only risk with sending them out to a fraction of the guest list is that people might be offended. It could seem like out-of-town-auntie is an A lister while home-town-uncle is on the B list and doesn’t get a save the date.
Post # 9
We didn’t send ours to local people (all of whom happen to be our parents’ friends). We’ll be sending out our invites pretty early, and I figured my mom’s friend Sue didn’t need my face on her fridge for 9 months.
Everyone in a group (ie family, college friends) either got them or didn’t get them.