(Closed) "Date the hot one, and marry the cute one"

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I think this guy sounds like an asshat and his POV is bullshit.

Post # 3
9134 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Men.  Can’t live with them, can’t reproduce without them.  

Post # 4
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

He seems like someone I wouldn’t want to date.

Post # 7
9595 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Spoiler alert: he ain’t dating any models.


Post # 8
5884 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Grafton86:  Well it sounds like his idea of hot vs cute has more to do with how high maintenance the girls are?  I agree that you are probably should probably marry someone who you are comfortable with in their more natural esthetic state…since it’s sort of the nature of marriage to have to “get real” with one another.

But I don’t agree with that as a definition of hot vs cute.  Seems kind of silly, but I sort of get what he’s saying…I think?

Post # 9
638 posts
Busy bee

He sounds like one of those idiots that can’t tell when women wear makep and think we’re all “naturally beautiful and low maintenance” with all out foundation, cover up, mascara and gloss.


sure sweetie. She’s low maintenance.

Post # 10
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My best friend and maid of honour is the definition of hot, curvy, sexy, always getting attention from men. My sister in law is hands down the most beautiful woman I have ever met in real life. She is a ten out of ten knock out (she would give Gisele a run for her money) Annnd neither of those gals are high maintence. . .he is a dick. And he’s wrong. Cute or hot, it doesn’t affect your marriagability.   

Post # 11
210 posts
Helper bee

Hmm I think maybe what he should of said  or meant to say but hes an idiot and it all came out wrong……is men might date women simply for their looks but when it comes to dating for a purpose or for a wife, the smart ones know there must be something else behind the exterior. and snagging a model isnt the priority, its snagging the woman they can love/live with forever.  Same goes for women too…we know what qualities make for better husbands….the incredibly hot to trot guys that think they are god’s gift to women usually do not make the best boyfriends or husbands, nor do the arrogant ultra rich d bags that want to “buy” a woman…so its really all the same…its just that WE women internalize it more and keep our mouths shut:) I dont really see that he made any point at all, excpet that he is immature and needs/likes attention around the workplace lol

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Post # 12
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Grafton86:  The conversation wouldn’t bother me too much. Everyone has a different idea of what defines “hot” or “cute.” Gisele may be considered the epitome of hot to one person, but to someone else she may just be cute or not attractive at all.

Its also possible that he was simply trying to say that looks aren’t the most important thing for a succesful relationship and he just kind of sucked at explaining it. Or he’s just an ass. One of these options seems plausible. 🙂

Post # 13
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I guess it’s all in the definition of “hot” vs “cute”. If “hot” is revealing clothing and going out to bars and getting hot and heavy on the dance floor, I could agree with him on a broad level – perhaps not the most likely wife material. But if “hot” is a certain cup size, or something like that, seems impracticle.

Post # 14
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

“Cute” is a word I only use to describe inanimate objects, small animals, or small children, so using my definition he’s saying to date adults whom you find sexually attractive and marry small children, probably not what he was going for.  He sounds like a jerk regardless.  

Post # 15
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t understand why that makes him a jerk…? I feel like if he was saying the opposite (only want to marry “hot” girl), everyone would say he was being a jerk for being shallow.

Why does this make him a jerk?

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