Post # 1
“Guys want to date a hottie, but they don’t want to bring them home to mom. You can have fun with the hot one, but she’s too high maintenance to go the distance. The cute girl is easier going and you’ll have a more meaningful connection with her because she has more depth. Girls who spend too much attention on their looks aren’t marriage material. You date the hot model, but you marry the cute girl next door”.
This is something a male coworker just said to a group of us over lunch. It was the beginning of a lively discussion on the whole “hot vs cute” debate, and what defined each. We challenged him with whatever amunition we could come up with: “What if you’re just naturally gorgeous, like Gisele Bunchen?”; “What if you look cute without makeup but you’re a bombshell with it?”; “What is a man’s definition of cute or hot and what are the differences?” He had an answer for everything, and seemed to stick to his original idea that a cutie is the better choice when you’re looking for a wife, whatever that means. We all ended up just rolling our eyes and laughing at him. He’s one of those clowns you can’t take too seriously-however, it made me curious. What do you guys think about his point of view?
Post # 2
I think this guy sounds like an asshat and his POV is bullshit.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Men. Can’t live with them, can’t reproduce without them.
Post # 4
He seems like someone I wouldn’t want to date.
Post # 5
beachbride1216: That’s pretty much how I took it too. I told him he’s a jerk and he shouldn’t be so apt to base his prediction for eternal happiness on how much makeup a girl wears or how good her genetic material is in the looks department. I also told him he’s putting women in ridiculous categories and we are waaaay more complex and undefinable. Then we all told him to put that in his pipe and smoke it lol
Post # 6
Bazinga: Amen my friend. Glad he’s just a coworker, because if I was dating someone like him, he’d be out the door after a conversation like that. He’s immature and good for a laugh, but I wouldn’t want to be his girlfriend. I think it’s poetic justice that he’s been single for the last year.
Post # 7
Spoiler alert: he ain’t dating any models.
Post # 8
Grafton86: Well it sounds like his idea of hot vs cute has more to do with how high maintenance the girls are? I agree that you are probably should probably marry someone who you are comfortable with in their more natural esthetic state…since it’s sort of the nature of marriage to have to “get real” with one another.
But I don’t agree with that as a definition of hot vs cute. Seems kind of silly, but I sort of get what he’s saying…I think?
Post # 9
He sounds like one of those idiots that can’t tell when women wear makep and think we’re all “naturally beautiful and low maintenance” with all out foundation, cover up, mascara and gloss.
sure sweetie. She’s low maintenance.
Post # 10
My best friend and maid of honour is the definition of hot, curvy, sexy, always getting attention from men. My sister in law is hands down the most beautiful woman I have ever met in real life. She is a ten out of ten knock out (she would give Gisele a run for her money) Annnd neither of those gals are high maintence. . .he is a dick. And he’s wrong. Cute or hot, it doesn’t affect your marriagability.
Post # 11
Hmm I think maybe what he should of said or meant to say but hes an idiot and it all came out wrong……is men might date women simply for their looks but when it comes to dating for a purpose or for a wife, the smart ones know there must be something else behind the exterior. and snagging a model isnt the priority, its snagging the woman they can love/live with forever. Same goes for women too…we know what qualities make for better husbands….the incredibly hot to trot guys that think they are god’s gift to women usually do not make the best boyfriends or husbands, nor do the arrogant ultra rich d bags that want to “buy” a woman…so its really all the same…its just that WE women internalize it more and keep our mouths shut:) I dont really see that he made any point at all, excpet that he is immature and needs/likes attention around the workplace lol
Post # 12
Grafton86: The conversation wouldn’t bother me too much. Everyone has a different idea of what defines “hot” or “cute.” Gisele may be considered the epitome of hot to one person, but to someone else she may just be cute or not attractive at all.
Its also possible that he was simply trying to say that looks aren’t the most important thing for a succesful relationship and he just kind of sucked at explaining it. Or he’s just an ass. One of these options seems plausible. 🙂
Post # 13
I guess it’s all in the definition of “hot” vs “cute”. If “hot” is revealing clothing and going out to bars and getting hot and heavy on the dance floor, I could agree with him on a broad level – perhaps not the most likely wife material. But if “hot” is a certain cup size, or something like that, seems impracticle.
Post # 14
“Cute” is a word I only use to describe inanimate objects, small animals, or small children, so using my definition he’s saying to date adults whom you find sexually attractive and marry small children, probably not what he was going for. He sounds like a jerk regardless.
Post # 15
I don’t understand why that makes him a jerk…? I feel like if he was saying the opposite (only want to marry “hot” girl), everyone would say he was being a jerk for being shallow.
Why does this make him a jerk?