(Closed) Dates or No Dates

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I think it entirely depends on how the guests fits within the group of guests who will be present.

For example, at my wedding I have invited a group of friends (6) who I attended school with but have not invited any of their significant others. My venue is limited in size and inviting 12 people versus 6 people would make a huge difference. I know that although some of these guests are in relationships they will be fine without their partner for one night as they are all very close friends with each other and will be sitting together.

On the other hand, I have a childhood friend who does not know that many people at the wedding. While she may be comfortable without a date (she is in the bridal party), I have opted to give her a +1 so she can bring someone if she wishes.

I think it’s best to consider the individual circumstances of each guest when choosing +1 or no +1. If they will know many other singles at the wedding then I don’t think it’s really a big deal.

Post # 18
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Here’s a question to think of: Would you be ok without your husband as your date to a future wedding if you knew a bunch of other friends would be there without their husbands?  People say "just one night" but our weddings are not the only events or weddings our guests attend.  If you would be offended not to have your husband there, then you are essentially judging others relationships as less signficant because they are not yet married….if you make room for all your friends spouses, I really think you should do the same for the significant others…

I think this is different than just handing out +1 for people to bring anyone they want along…

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