Dating post broken engagement

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I say be honest and be yourself. If he can’t handle your past then he isn’t right.

As for bringing it up, let the topic come up naturally and then just say “So here is the deal.”

Post # 4
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Busy bee

To be fair Christmas is usually a crazy month for most people. The pre purchased tickets means you already have another date set! That’s a good sign

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Bring it up if the topic of EXs comes up or he asks, otherwise keep it to yourself. Unless you make a habit of telling random people about your broken engagement.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I wouldn’t be scared away because the person i was dating had a broken engagement but if they started talking about it without me asking I would get the impression they were not over the ex and that they were not that excited about me. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yep. Just let it come up organically if it does come up. It really has no bearing on your current potential relationship, so it’s not something that he NEEDS to know about. My husband was engaged to someone else before (granted it was years before we met) and I don’t think I found out until we’d been together for quite a while, we might have even been engaged ourselves at that point. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

When I split with my ex-husband I was really worried about it being seen as ‘baggage’ as well. I learned that if someone considers that baggage than they weren’t right for me anyways. My now fiance never once considered my last relationship bagged; he was there with me every step of the way through the lengthy divorce process and never looked down on me for it. Your past relationships are learning experiences, they are not ‘baggage’

Post # 12
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Helper bee

It’s really not that bad/big of a deal. I’m sure it feels that way to you, but many people break off engagements and honestly you can tell him/people that you made the choice to end the relationship before you went through with marriage. In your case, that was the right/smart thing to do and was very wise. Give yourself some credit! Shit happens.

Post # 13
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Newbee

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@ beachykeenbee   Hi bee! I understand how you are feeling! When I broke off my engagement, I felt really weird about when the right time to tell a new guy was. I honestly didn’t have a hard rule that I followed. I told dates when it felt right, for some dates that was on the first one and others I never told despite going on multiple dates. I am not sure how old you are but I was 24 when I broke off my engagement so was still pretty young and felt like it wasn’t going to be “acceptable” to have been engaged before. I would recommend you just do what feels right and if someone has a problem with it, he is clearly not the right guy for you!

Post # 15
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Newbee

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@ beachykeenbee   I wouldn’t be embarassed though. I am now 28 and see many couples that got married right out of college getting divorced. Breaking off an engagement is much easier than getting a divorce! And it shows that you are a strong confident woman for knowing what you want out of life. When I told my now-fiance that I was engaged in the past, it didn’t phase him at all! And it honestly was never a big deal to any of the guys I dated in the 4 years since my broken engagement. 

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