- 4 weeks ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Again, the biggest issue for me would be whether he is in treatment and faithfully taking his meds.
Many people who struggle with bipolar do very well with symptom management, as long as they are religious about treatment, and that is going to include a lifetime of meds. The same is true with diabetics and other disorders.
Bipolar is one disorder that we know for sure is all about biochemistry.
Fortunately, we now have 50+ bipolar meds available, with new ones coming down the pipeline. There is typically a trial and error period, to find the right med and proper dose. This can be hellish. But, it’s worth it if stabilization can be achieved.
The other tidbit I would really push for is how that diagnosis came to be. How did he end up in front of a mental health professional qualified to give that diagnosis? What type of evaluation was done? Testing? Recommendations for treatment?
Did he just wake up one day and decide that today is the day to get evaluated? Or, was it mandated by some authority? Or mandated by a family member/gf? Employer? At the suggestion of a prior therapist? This is crucial to know.
It may seem like I’m harping. I am. But, only because bipolar is a very serious disorder. It’s potentially quite manageable with proper treatment; but, very serious, nonetheless.
Everything I am suggesting is information that will give you a much clearer picture of who this guy really is before you invest further.
I would not rely 100% on self reporting. Or the observations of people in his close orbit.
Please do not let anyone minimize the seriousness of this condition. Everyone’s story may be different, but, none of it changes the facts.
For your own peace of mind, be willing to ask the hard questions.