Your side observation of one person’s involvement with a partner struggling with bipolar is damn close to meaningless.
How many people with bipolar are you actually talking about? And, from what vantage point was all of your observing? Over what time frame? How do you know what combo of meds were tried; for how long; and, with what results?
Constantly in treatment; on this point, you are correct. The diagnosis of bipolar carries with it the implication of ongoing treatment. So does a diagnosis of Type 1 diabetes or epilepsy. What’s your point?
At best, it helps for a few months before another medication is tried.
And, from what esteemed scholarly journal did you pull this tidbit? Or, are we back to your extensive personal observation? This statement makes it sound as if you’re tossing out empirical facts.
As I have said; more than once, we are now up to 50+ Bipolar meds. This is a good thing. In the early stages of treatment, trial and error can be common and quite unpleasant. Struggling with untreated bipolar is no day at the beach either.
You are completely, totally wrong. Bipolar meds do not typically just stop working after a few months. If you had the expertise you seem to think you have, you would also be aware that the current crop of mood stabilizers are typically prescribed in conjunction with other meds.
The SSRIs and SSNIs are by far more likely to lose their effectiveness over time and require a med change.
Ok, so you choose not to date anyone who is not 100% mentally healthy. Fair enough. Good luck with that. What battery of tests are you relying on for screening purposes?
What is your mental health cut off? Or, must your potential mates be entirely free of any signs of any type of disorder; say, a bout with situational anxiety or depression?
You may run into difficulties. Like most traits, it’s all on continuums. We all experience anxiety, we all experience depression, we all experience mood swings; hopefully, you get the idea. It’s a matter of where we fall on each continuum.
The reason mental health issues are stigmatized is precisely because of the kind of ignorance presented in your post. You are certainly entitled to your own opinions. You are not entitled to your own facts.