- 5 days ago
Long story short a few months ago I began dating someone casually and it’s turned into something pretty great so far. I didn’t think it will be more than a fling but here we are in a healthy commited relationship now.
Unlike my last relationship we are VERY compatible, we share alot of similar values, goals, we get along great, he treats me with respect everything pretty much awesome. I don’t have that all time high like in my previous relationship but this is much healthier.
Issue is: He has a child from a previous relationship. He fits the bill in everything else but sometimes im unsure about this because of the child.
While I can’t judge a person by their past and i’m not, I’ve alwasys wanted to experience having a child for the first time with a s/o who is also experiencing this the first time. I’ve always cut out dudes with kids for this reason but I thought this would be more of a fling, therefore I didn’t care about that initially. Last year I became pregnant and had an abortion because my relationship with my ex was in shambles and well, I didn’t want to be a single mom. Though it would have been both of our first time having a child and we were actually excited for a bit but we knew that unfortunately we hated each other and a child was not going to keep us together.
Well here I am a year later dating a single dad.
Other than this, our relationship is great.
Are there any other bees out there who have gone through this? How have you handled. Im just interested in different points of views. For reference we are not that young im 28 and he’s 31.