Post # 1
Hello everyone! This is my first time posting on WeddingBee!
Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years. He’s younger than me by a yr and a half. I am 26 and he’s about to turn 25 in a couple months. We’ve talked about getting married in the near future. He always tells me he’s ready to settle down with me but for some odd reason I sometimes wonder if he is ready due to his age. When I talk to friends, they always tell me “hmm…25 is awfully young for a guy to get married.” I guess I’ve allowed that to replay in my head to the point I’m starting to question if he’s ready…? I just don’t want resentment 5 years down the road because “he wasn’t ready.” Do you think age is a factor in marriage (with teen years of course )? I know there are older men out there that are still not ready to settle down but still…….
Are any of y’all married or engaged to a younger man? Did age play factor? Thanks for the advice in advance!
Post # 2
I don’t think age should be a factor in marriage especially when you are both adults. My fiance’s cousin married a younger man earlier this year. They have a daughter together and they seem pretty content and happy with their life.
I am 23 and marrying someone 6 and a half year older than me. I know its not the same but I am fully 100 percent ready to be married to the love of my life at my age.
Post # 3
I don’t think you can use age as a rule in or out of someone it mature enough to get married.
Post # 4
I was 23 and my husband was 22 when we got married. Age isn’t as important as maturity. If he says he’s ready to settle down then that’s a great sign!
Post # 5
A one year age difference isn’t that big a deal. Yes, you become more mature as you get older, but some people are lucky to have found their soulmate at a younger age. The average marrying age is mid-late 20s anyway. If you understand each other and are committed, there’s nothing wrong with your getting married. On average, women live longer than men, so consider yourselves well matched!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn
Eirene00: my Darling Husband is 3.5 years younger than me. I was 26 when we started dating and he was 22. We moved in together after 6 months, got engaged after a little over a year together and got married this past May just shy of our third anniversary when he was 25 and I was 29. Initially I thought our age difference would be a problem or that he wouldn’t be ready for a serious relationship, but after a few months I pretty much forgot about age difference completely. Now that I just turned 30 and he’s 26 he is loving calling me old lady though. .. It’s only been a few days though, so hopefully he cuts that out soon lol!
Post # 7
A year and a half difference isn’t a difference great enough that I’d say you’re “with a younger man.” I have a tolerance of around three years before I say someone is dating/marrying/whatever a “younger/older person.”
Post # 8
I don’t think 1.5 years is a big difference at all. We’re 1.5 years apart and it feels like we’re the same age. We were married when Darling Husband was 22 and no one said or acted like he was young, 21-24 is typical age for a guy to get married around here. I don’t age matters as much as maturity and having one’s life together.
Post # 9
I honestly wouldn’t class 1.5 years as an age gap in your 20’s
Post # 10
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Eirene00: 25 is not particularly young, no one would bat an eyelid if your ages were reversed. People can be awfully funny about ages. I’ve only seriously dated within a year of myself (older or younger) and have been surprised on several occasions by people’s reactions when the guy was younger. Perhaps it is the common belief that boys are a couple of years behind girls in their teens (girls tend to physically mature earlier).
I guess your friends could argue he hasn’t been mature for long? This isn’t different for a woman at 25 though. By 25 most people will have reached psychological maturity. It turns out you don’t legally “come of age” (at 18, 21 whatever) and suddenly you’re a fully fledged adult equipped to make adult decisions (lol, and adult mistakes) like a 35 year old. If you think about it the idea that you get off the rollercoaster of your teen years, and just walked the straight and narrow of ‘mature adulthood’ without a wobble is pretty optimistic. Not sure about your background but you may find this interesting http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24173194
My advice is listen to your partner, not your friends. He knows how he feels. Perhaps do a marriage preparation course (because they can be helpful at any age) and see how you both feel after that.
Post # 11
Eirene00: My husband was 22 and I was 25 when we got married. He had already asked me twice in the previous 2 years. He was definitely ready. We’ve been married 18 years now. About 5 years ago, I overheard him on the phone with a guy he was starting to be friendly with at work. He said “No, there’s not one thing I’d change about my life.” I don’t know what exactly they were talking about, but I took that as a compliment. If he says he’s ready and acts like he’s ready, that’s a better indicator than his age.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone!! I guess I need to stop listening to my friends. He is mature for his age. Way more mature than my ex-boyfriends. I actually thought he was 5 years older than me when we first met lol.
Post # 13
Wtf since when is a year dating a younger person? Is he super immature and does he act like he’s 12?
Post # 14
You two are practically the same age, maturity isn’t based on numbers at this point.
Post # 15
My fiancé is 20, I just turned 22. We got engaged when we were 19 and 21. I think 19 is incredibly young to propose to someone, like that’s what people back on our grandparents’ era did. XD I know there are others who think we’re rushing things or that we’re both too going, but we have been dating for almost five years and we are planning the wedding for after we’re born finished with school. I think we’re a lot more mature than many older couples, and that’s all that matters.