Post # 1
My sister has asked my daughter to be a bridesmaid for her wedding next September and the problem is that she (daughter) is currently in Grade 12 and will be in University come time for the wedding and living out of provience, we don’t know what her University schedule will be yet obviously but we need to commit in order to have a dress ordered for her. My sister knows the situation but it is really stessing me out because my daughter wants to be in the wedding party and my sister wants her to be in the wedding party but in order for her to come back we’d have to fly her in and that’s like $700 and it would only be for a weekend and we just can’t afford it. She could drive in but it’s a 24hr drive so she’s need to miss school to do that and she won’t know if she can do that or not til she gets her schedule for school! I honestly don’t know what to do!……any suggestion’s would be greatly appreciated
Post # 3
Would your sister be willing to help cover her travel expenses?
Most professors are flexible if you tell them advance about missing classes and will work with students about making up work (some aren’t, but it’s worth a shot!). If it’s just one class, and not mid-terms or finals, it might be doable to miss a class, if your daughter was willing to do that.
Post # 4
@abbie017: I am going to have a talk with my sister tonight so we will see if she’d be willing to help pay, she’s young herself and doesn’t have the best job so I doubt it.
As for missing a class or two she’s not actually in University yet and by the time she is the wedding will be a week away, lol so again we can’t plan for that to happen but I will tell my daughter that so as to help her make a decision. If we can get flight costs covered than she may only miss a class or two but if she has to drive than it’d be 2 days of classes to miss Or more.
It upsets me to think she won’t be there cause I’m close with my family and I want her there
The only other thing I was thinking was to start a bring home the bridesmaid fund for her or if we can wait to order her dress in but I would want to put a groomsmen alone if we can’t get her home…..phew to much, lol
Post # 5
When in September is the wedding? If it’s early enough, I doubt if she’d be missing TOO much if she had to miss a day….
Post # 6
if you have a year to plan, I’d think you could save up the travel funds between now and then to get her home for the wedding
Post # 7
So wedding is in september then? what program and what school is she (likely) going to be in? in my experiences with big canadian institutions, sciences it’s hard to accomodate lab-rescheduling – you get one per semester per class no exceptions, engineering same thing. missing lectures is less of a big deal, which makes it easier if she’s in arts or commerce (no labs!). there aren’t that many assignments at the beginning, and it’s easy to get the lecture material, either from being posted online, or from photocopying a classmate’s. also: most schools you sign up for classes in the summer (june/july) and labs are *rarely* on fridays (there are some if there’s overflow, but monday-thursday is definitely more common)
but a 24hr drive x2 sounds ROUGH.
Post # 8
@mayflowerbride13: It’s Sept. 14th so only about a week in, not to bad I guess 🙂
Post # 9
Thank you all for your responses I really appreciate your help and input
I spoke to my family about my daughter being in the wedding and everybody is willing to help get her home (fying home so it doesn’t interfere with school)
Problem solved 🙂
Well homework will be another issue but she’ll work it out
Thank you all again! I am feeling stress free now