- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Well, let me update on what happened with therapy first and then move on to the next.
As you all know my daughter (step)..hate that part..so I just say daughter cause I raise her….told a lie about a teacher hitting a student and then getting that teacher put on administrative leave. Well after careful examination the teacher was taken off administrative leave and given her job back.
She also told on my son for supposedly having drugs in his backpack. The school now is well aware of her propensity to lie and exaggerate. Now every time she runs to the office or to her teacher they dont react they just ask if she is telling the truth and they will get to her.
Well we filled out all the papers from the new therapy team and they have met with her. From their assessment she doesnt have attachment disorder, conduct disorder, or abandonment disorder,(to old for it), she does have low self esteem, she exhibits behaviors related to APD but not the full spectrum and not even in a way that makes it noticeable unless your around her for more than a few hours, she is a pathological liar. Not a compulsive liar, apparently there is a difference. She also does have ADHD. Which we did know. Also they are concerned that she shows no remorse for lying and power control of others, and doesnt seem to understand that her actions are harmful and she doesnt really care who gets hurt.
The therapy team opted for a comprehensive triple threat approach. She will see a behavioral therapist to help reverse her learned behaviors. She will see a psychotherapist to help her come to terms with her self esteem, and she will see a psychiatrist who will deal with the distribution of her meds. We will see a family therapist for help dealing with it as well as to help the other kids learn to cope.
Her first appointment was three hours long. Now she is scheduled for three sessions a week, one hour with each therapist and then twice a month we will all do family therapy.
So on to yesterday. DH and I receive calls from a police officer at our home while we are each on our way home from work.
The real story…after some dragging of facts from her under threat of arrest and being sent to a juvenile facility.
She and her siblings were walking home from school when a boy ahead of them was walking along kicking a rock with his shoe. Said rock struck the shoe of another little girl…little girl never even noticed. She wasnt hurt, boy apologized and continued kicking the pebble til he reached his driveway….little girl goes on ahead and goes to her house.
My darling daughter waits til said boy is in the house and then runs to his front door and rings the bell. Tells his mother that he hit a little girl with a rock. Of course the mom is angry at her son and concerned that the little girl is hurt because my darling daughter doesnt say no she was fine it only hit her shoe. The woman is under the impression that her son physically picked up a rock and struck the little girl on purpose because my darling daughter tells her that he did it on purpose.
So the lady ask where she can find the little girl to make sure she is okay. My darling daughter says well I dont know for sure where she lives. Well the woman becomes concerned that the girl is injured and if she might need medical attention and wants to make it right. Well the mother calls the police. The police are searching for this little girl who has supposedly been hurt.
So we get to our house within ten minutes. The police finally find the girl after some questioning of my other children. The girls parents are bewildered and so is she as to why everyone thinks she is hurt. So the police are back at our door. Giving us a lecture about teaching our kids about reporting crimes that are untrue and how lying is bad.
DH and I were dreadfully embarassed. The parents of both the boy and girl are upset with us, and our darling daughter doesnt know what the big deal is. Her response was “I didnt lie, he did hit her with a rock.” I said yes you did lie. You exaggerated the truth about someone getting hurt and someone doing it on purpose.
I can say that never in my life have I wanted to hit a child more than in that moment. I had to get in my car and drive for a bit because I was so angry.
I called the therapist and told them what happened and they will talk to her about it tomorrow at therapy.