(Closed) Daughters role in wedding?!

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Desireeg:  Really the only thing I can think of is having her be the only flower girl or Jr. Bride. 

Jr.Brides kind of creep me out though… 

I think she’s a little young for a Jr. Bridesmaid…

So depending on who is walking you down the aisle, she could walk with you, and stand up there beside of you. You could do a part where he vows to be a good step father and then have him give her his token and she could go sit down. 🙂

I’ve seen lots of ceremonies that incorporate the children into the ceremony, usually that’s how it goes. 

Post # 4
46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Desireeg:  I need help understanding why you are priorizing your nieces as flower girls rather than your daughter. It seems like the perfect role for her to me. Have you already asked the nieces?

Post # 5
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Desireeg:  have you considered having your daughter walk down with you and stand right beside you and be apart of the ceremony?  i think that would be very special to include her in the ceremony.  this will be a union of 3 afterall.

Post # 6
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You might want to consider making her a “Mini Bride” ** … so that she is more included in the Ceremony with you and your NEW Husband…

As the 3 of you go forward to create a NEW Family

** I don’t Mini Bride is the actual terminology… but the idea is similar… she’d get dressed up, walk down the aisle with or infront of Mommy… and make a vow with you all to be a bigger part of a greater family

Psychologists say including kids in the day, especially if they are little, and their “family” life will be expanding / changing as they know is of far greater importance than most Adults realize.

I’ll see if I can’t find some links for you


Post # 7
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@julies1949:  +1

@Desireeg:  Why are you having neices play such a loving role? Don’t you think your daughter will grow up an wonder why you wanted your neices to be flower girls and gave her a side position? 

Maybe do a sand ceremony and let your little girl add in some sand to signify the beginning of a new family. Other than that I am not sure where you should put her because she is too young to read and will probably sturggle to stand throughout the entire ceremony. 

Or could you Maybe carry her down the aisle?


Post # 8
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @mypinkshoes:  Lol, you and I were Drafting at the same time… great MOMS think alike !!


Post # 9
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@julies1949:  +1  I would think she’d feel rather hurt by not being able to wear a pretty dress and throw petals like her cousins.

Can she walk with you down the aisle or stand with you?


Post # 12
1285 posts
Bumble bee

Since she is 4, I’d make her your one and only flowergirl.  Others would understand.


My daughter is 11 (will be shy of 12) she is going to be a regular bridesmaid, not JR. I only have her and my Maid/Matron of Honor.  

Post # 14
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @Desireeg:  Here is a link to a GOOGLE SEARCH I did on your behalf for – Wedding Cremony with Children Vows


There are several websites listed… I checked out the first one for Offbeat Bride, they had some nice examples

But the other ones have more info as well.

The thing is you can write it / customize it as you wish.

I have also seen in my Post Divorce Travels many many Self Help Books that are aimed at Remarriages with Kids… so a trip to a Bookstore might also be worthwhile.

Hope this helps,



Post # 15
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

When my dad and stepmom got married, they included me in the ceremony and vows and stuff! They didn’t “call” me anything, but I don’t think they had programs? I don’t remember, but I don’t think I had any sort of title. You could just put: Bride, Groom, Daughter, or something, or even just your names!

I had a little bouquet and in the ceremony the officiant asked me if I would accept my stepmom as a part of our family, It was precious!

Post # 16
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Desireeg:  I have two children from previous relationships, my daughter is 6 and my son is 3. We want to include them during the day too, so they know this marriage is about them, as well as fiancé and me. So they are going to lead me down the aisle, but they won’t stand with me at the front because they are easily bored and little legs can tire quickly lol. We’re going to say a special speech at the reception just for them, and after the first dance we are planning on doing a family dance, where I will dance with my son and Ash (fiancé) will dance with my daughter. If they were older I would ask them to do a reading or something (church wedding) but they’re not quite ready for that yet lol 

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