(Closed) David Tutera: wedding veil rude at reception?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

At all the weddings I have ever been too, I’ve NEVER seen the bride wear her veil at the reception. Only since joining wedding bee that I’ve heard and seen that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally i don’t care about etiquette..much. I will do what i feel comfortable doing. my fiancée was surprised to know i wouldn’t change to a second outfit before going to the Hotel (which now we’re not) and i told him there’s no way i would take my dream dress a min before i must! No, i don’t think i will keep the veil during reception, but let’s see!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I kept my veil on during my reception (it was a shorter veil, though, not a floor length one).  I figured I’m never going to get to wear a veil again, so I wanted to wear it as much as possible!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I’ve never heard of loosing your veil for etiquette… I know I will be taking mine off because it is cathedral length…

Post # 7
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I left my veil on at my reception at my first wedding.  In fact, it was attached to my headpiece so I couldn’t remove it even if I wanted to.  To be honest, it was a big hassle.  Every time someone would hug me, it would yank my head back.  It would have been easier just to take it off.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve never heard such a thing in my life.  I’m going to take mine off for the reception because I’m planning to get a cathedral length one and Mr. C isn’t keen on veils, so we compromised on doing it just for the ceremony.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have never heard this and frankly wouldn’t care if I had. I wore mine throughout the whole night. I loved my veil and didn;t want to take it off till I had to.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I feel like as long as you’re not offending others, you can nix some etiquette rules. If you want to continue to wear your veil during the reception, by all means do so! I would wear mine to the reception, I just think it’s going to b too long for me to party in.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve actually never heard of that etiquette, but I wouldn’t put it past David (he is amazing) or some other big wedding fashion designers to say that.

If you have a short veil, wear it. You will probably never wear it again. If you have a long one, you will probably want to nix it since that would be a pain to fiddle with the whole night. I have a long veil that I will be removing for the reception/dance, but I have a short veil that has beading to match my dress. I LOVE it and even if it were bad etiquette to keep it on, oh well. Then I shall be ill-mannered for 6 hours. 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have never heard of this. Since when is David Tutera the all-knowing wedding god?? No offense to any of his fans, but I can’t really stomach him anymore.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love to hear what the antiquated outdated reason for why this is rude. Some brides take it off right after the ceremony and pictures, others wear it for the first part of their party. I am pretty sure I’ve never seen anyone wear it all night, even brides with bridecage veils. It depends on the bride and in my view it should be their choice. It has little to no effect on the guest so I can’t see how it is rude.

Also after seeing the cost of those things, I think anyone with enough gall who would suggest or ask the bride to take off, should get their checkbook out and write her check for that veil. Ridiculous ! Another case of people posturing and being offended just for the sake of it.  

Post # 14
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t wear a veil but not because I thought it would be rude to do so and I’ve personally never felt offended when the bride chooses to keep her veil on.

Post # 15
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10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I plan to wear mine for the first dance with my train down too. Since it’s a cathedral length I won’t be wearing it after that but I think it’s up to the bride.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t want to wear mine at all, so it will be coming off right after the ceremony. I’m debating on if I will have any/many pictures in the veil either. It’s just not my thing, but I’m planning the game

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