(Closed) Day After Brucnh-but we aren't paying

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I want to see what people say to this too =)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you can do it, you just need to be very tactful with the wording! I’m not coming up with anything good yet though haha

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would say something like “The hotel serves breakfast every morning from 7-10. We’ll be there on 10/? and we would love to see you again before you depart!”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My situation is the same as yours.  I just plan to let them do their own thing.  Maybe invite a few guests you really want there, but otherwise maybe people will see you in the morning and stop in if they want?  I would just be afraid people may think you expect them to come and pay if you put the menu and note in there. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hmmm.  People will definitely think you’re paying if you say something like “Breakfast is served in the hotel  restaurant from 7am-10am. We would love to see you before you head home!”  Including the menu is a start, but I think people will still be unsure.  Maybe if you said something like “The hotel offers a breakfast from 7-10.  Here is a list of other restaurants in the area.”

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

“Stop by the restaurant to see us out! they serve from blank to blank.” they, not you!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

By including this in your hospitality bags it implies that the meal would be provided at compliments of the bride and groom…people could easily make that mistake and turn something intended to be a fun ending to your wedding weekend into an awkward and strained stand off when the bill is presented….if it were me I would simply spread the word at the reception while you are visiting with your guests that your husband and you were planning on having breakfast at the hotel in the morning, people can either decide to join you or part ways and head home, but at least that way there’s no confusion about who’s footing the bill. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ooh, that’s a toughie!  I think if you include an insert in the Out of Town bags, at least some people will assume you’re paying no matter how you word it.  I think it would be better to have a relative or member of the bridal party spread the word:

“Before you leave, please stop by the hotel restaurant to say goodbye to Bostongrl25 and Fiance.  The breakfast menu will be available.”

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Since you are not hosting (i.e. paying for) guests’ breakfast/brunch meals, I would not make any mention of your plans to dine in the hotel restaurant the morning after your wedding. 

I’m sure that many of your Out of Town guests will, on their own, choose to avail themselves of the hotel restaurant for breakfast or brunch before they head out of town, and those who are there when you and your Darling Husband are very likely will stop by your table to wish you well (or you could visit theirs.)

Any efforts to communicate your plans to guests could very easily be miscommunicated and could result in misunderstandings and awkward situations.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with Nona99. At the last wedding I traveled to they did exactly that — spread the word informally that they would be having breakfast in the hotel at a certain time. No one was under the impression that the bride and groom were hosting breakfast for everyone, and no one felt obligated to join, but those who wanted to spend a little more time with them could do so.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’d love to see you the morning after our big day

Before you pack up all your bags and fly away

Attached is a menu of what the hotel provides

“This time the tab is on you, so please order sides!” jk

OR line 4 alt.

“We plan to drop by to say our Goodbyes” 

Sorry I got stuck at line three LOL, I just had this conversation with my mom yesterday and we are going through the same dilemma! Actually as PP mentioned don’t say anything about the breakfast just casually mention that “you think there is breakfast at the hotel and that if enough people choose to go to it you might stop by to say your goodbyes”

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s important to make sure your guests understand two things, they don’t have to come and you aren’t paying if they do…I attended an out of town wedding where it was literally impossible to get out of the hotel without walking through or a least along the dining room, so while my Fiance and I were trying to get the hell out of dodge, because while we had a great time driving in, getting all gussied up and wedding our pants off all night…it was time to go home….and as we were making our getaway, the bride saw us and that was that…drug in for breakfast at a crappy hotel restaurant to listen to her and her newly minted groom coo and cuddle all over each other while nursing a raging hang over and a pretty nasty case of home sickness…it was like being held hostage in a prison that serves runny eggs benedict….bleh

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