Post # 1
We’re getting married Mother’s Day Weekend. We’re inviting between 250 and 300 people with a ceremony starting aroudn 5pm. This means there’s no way I’ll be able to spend quality time with the family guests during the reception. I had thought from the beginning of planning that a day after brunch would be a wonderful way to thank the mom’s for cutting their weekend short for me and spend some quality time with those relatives I couldn’t spend time with during the previous evening. FI’s been on board from the beginning, but last night I think my wedding planning excitment became a bit too much and he pooped on a couple ideas including the brunch. He pooped nicely, but still basically said he didn’t figure anyone would want to come to that. So my questions are:
Who comes to a day after brunch? Is it worth the time and effort? With the fact that it would be mother’s day, do you think that makes it a better idea? Any other thoughts regarding a day after brunch would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
The biggest value that I see in wedding weekend brunches are if you have a lot of out of town guests – they spend the time and money to fly in and then only see you for 10 minutes at the reception … so brunches 1) give them a chance to spend more time with you (in a lower stress situation), and 2) give them something to do
Post # 4
We did a morning after brunch following our 140 person ceremony/reception that was supposed to be just for the aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, wedding party and their guests and the readers. Well apprently word spread through the grapevine about it and a bunch of our other guests showed up (so yes, people WILL come! ). Luckily, the hotel didn’t seem to be actually paying attention to how many people went through the brunch buffet (because it was way more than we paid for). It was a great chance to spend a bit more time with everyone before we started our long drive back to TX.
EDIT: We also opened our wedding gifts that people had brought during the brunch which I really liked because we were able to thank people in person for the gifts they got us (not replacing thank you notes or anything, but it is nice to get to thank people in person too). Plus it made loading things in the car much easier so we could drive it all back to TX as we weren’t smashing bags or running the risk of cards getting separated from gifts, etc.
Post # 5
We had one and we invited all family members and all guests who stayed at the hotel (the breakfast was in a hotel conference room). It was basically an open breakfast from 9-11 and people could come and go whenever they wanted (pretty informal). It was really great.
I think you may get some guests who won’t come to the brunch because it is mothers day (and they might be on their way to see their own mothers).
If you wanted to invite just family, I don’t see a problem with that either.
Ours didn’t really require much effort, just money. It was worth it, but I think going with the cheapest option of coffee, juices, and danishes/bagels would have been just fine. No need for an omelet station.
Post # 6
@SuperBrook: Hi! DO IT! I am SO happy we decided to do the day after brunch. We had about 75 people there out of 120 guests. It was mostly family and family friends but it was really nice to spend extra time with these guests. It was really casual, and it was open house so you could come and go as you pleased. There was SO much food. We spent the time talking to family and friends, EATING, drinking mimosas, reading our guestbook, saying goodbye to people, etc. It was SO worth it!!! All of our guests were invited but many people were flying out so our turn out was smaller than our guest list. But we still had a great turn out!!! After almost everyone had left we opened presents and read cards and then we said goodbye to our parents.
So all in all, yes it was totally worth it and I would recommend doing it!
Post # 7
We are doing a day after brunch on the first of the year. It will be at the hotel everyone is staying at. We put RSVP cards for the brunch in the invitations of immeadiate family, grandparents, out of town guests and the wedding party. I’m so excited to be able to actually spend quality time with them after all the craziness!!
Post # 8
How did you all word your separate brunch invitations? My Fiance and I are hosting the brunch ourselves so I’m not sure how to word the card we’re including with the invitation. Please help!