(Closed) Day-After Brunch – Yea, Nay or Don't Care??

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Are you doing a post-wedding brunch? Is this important to you and why? Are you opening gifts?
    Nope - no family brunch here : (23 votes)
    15 %
    Yes - I think that its a great way to gather family and close friends the day after the wedding : (36 votes)
    24 %
    Not sure : (10 votes)
    7 %
    Not important at all : (22 votes)
    15 %
    I'm excited to spend more one on one time with friends and family, but not super important : (18 votes)
    12 %
    This is a family tradition and something I wouldn't miss : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Yep, definitely opening gifts. This is part of our family's tradition : (5 votes)
    3 %
    No - we want to do this ourselves and make it a memorable experience for the two of us : (22 votes)
    15 %
    Don't really care one way or another : (12 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    We had a day after brunch, mostly because we had a lot of out of town people and I figured if people were paying for a hotel the least I could do is give them breakfast. We also opened gifts, but mostly because our parents wanted us to and we didn’t care either way. I wasn’t super excited about it because I do think it is terribly awkward, but I didn’t REALLY care if they wanted us to. 

    I definitely don’t think it is necessary though. It IS super super awkward and I don’t feel like it would be a big deal to just not and then send cards later.

    Post # 4
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    We did a really casual brunch, but didn’t open our presents there. I don’t think anyone really enjoys that part and we wanted to focus on spending time with our guests that traveled. Darling Husband and I opened our gifts just the two of us and it was a fun thing for the two of us to share.

    Post # 5
    4439 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    We’re planning on it because lots of FI’s family is coming in from out of town so I think it will be nice to see them again and spend more time before they have to go home!  

    Post # 6
    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    My husband and I opened our gifts with my mom the day after. We only had about 3 things to open since we mostly got cards with money! 

    Post # 7
    3773 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 1999

    I think you should change the pole to give brunch options and gift opening options:)

    Post # 8
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I believe my FI’s parents are going to throw a brunch. I would be excited to have one, because our family is so spread out throughout the United States and I so rarely have a chance to see them. I most definitely would not haul my presents there and open them though. That will be awkward enough at the shower.

    Post # 9
    8394 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did breakfast with DH’s Out of Town family and then went to my parent’s house for a very casual gift opening with just immediate family.

    Post # 10
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We has a day-after brunch and have attended ones for others. I think they are a great way to spend more time with people. But the opening of gifts is totally foreign to me. I’ve never heard of that, and I know the idea would have made Mr. LK very unhappy. He dislikes being at the center of attention. So while he was glad to be in the spotlight for our wedding day, asking him to do so again the next morning would have been asking way too much of him.  Can you two compromise? Have the brunch, but no gift opening?

    Post # 11
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Fiance and I made the decision over a year ago to abstain for sex prior to the wedding and our families know that… I think it would really awkward getting together the very next day 

    Post # 12
    1716 posts
    Bumble bee

    I didnt even know this was a thing till I got here =)

    I’d so do it if I had a destination wedding.

    Post # 13
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    We didn’t have one, but I was just at a wedding that did. Gotta be honest, it was kind of nice, but totally not necessary to me. And I’ve never heard of opening gifts in front of your wedding guests.  If you’ve got the budget to host one, I say go for it. It wouldn’t hurt.

    Post # 14
    1934 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We opened our gifts by ourselves the night of the wedding.  It was a special way for us to wind down the night.

    We DID have a tiny brunch the next day.  It was literally JUST our two sets of parents. We actually did this so we could tell his parents that we’re pregnant (my family knew). It was nice!

    Post # 15
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think it would be weird to open presents after the wedding, but if it was my DH’s family’s tradition, I’d get over it and just go with the flow.

    Post # 16
    13014 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We’re hosting a casual drop-in day after brunch.  Most of our guests are Out of Town and we wanted to have the opportunity to actually visit with people if it fit with their travel schedules.  It won’t be mandatory and we really just want to see our family and friends without the stress of the wedding and schedules and stuff! 

    We will not be opening gifts there.  I think it’s out of place and inappropriate, but that’s just me!

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