(Closed) Day After Present Opening

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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flusteredcb:  Is a gift- opening traditional where you live?

I find the whole concept bizarre. Opening gifts in front of other people so they can all compare who gave what, how much money they spent etc has the potential  to put your guests in a very uncomfortable positon.

I would not do it. I would open gifts as they come in and write thank-you notes ahead of the wedding (saves so much time later), and open cards and envelopes as soon after the wedding as we are able. Hopefully not too many of your guests show up with physical gifts. Those should always be sent to your home.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Who is pressuring you to have a gift-opening? If it’s your mom, maybe you could invite her over to your place after the honeymoon to open gifts if she really wants to be there for it. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

If I knew someone was doing this, I would totally give them sex toys. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Eh. I’d only do it if it were convenient. We had a very low-key one at my parent’s house the morning after. It was small and the invitations were just word of mouth. We ordered bagels and had some brunch party trays out, and people stopped by. When we were actually opening our presents, there were maybe 10-15 people milling around, half of which were our immediate families.

Post # 8
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Honey bee

My daughter and her husband only received cards, and what could fit in them, at their wedding. Imagine the embarasment to open a card, in front of guests, and say “this is from Uncle John and Aunt Mary” and guests at the gift-opening would see an amount of cash fall out.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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flusteredcb:  Bummer. I think you just have to decide if being able to open them at your leisure is something you want enough to take a stance on. Good luck

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Don’t do it. Huge waste of money and time, and no one enjoys it! It’s awkward and uncomfortable. If they want to watch you open your gift then they shold give theirs to you in private, but I see no reason to do a “gift opening”.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t give in.

i didn’t open mine until i got back from my honeymoon, 2 weeks later.  it was mostly cards and checks.  why would people want to watch that.

SAY NO.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

We opened gifts and sent thank you cards as they came in before the wedding, but we also opened the rest the morning after at my grandma’s with basically just my immediate family, probably 10-15 people. I think it made it more fun than just opening them by ourselves. Actually even the gifts that came before the wedding were opened at my grandma’s because we had put her address on our registry since our apartment wasn’t secure for receiving packages. But in your case it doesn’t make sense to get a separate venue or have to take everything home and do it after. Plus you don’t want to do it- So when people bring it up, just say, no, we won’t be doing that.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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flusteredcb:  Sounds gross, just say no. I can’t believe this is even a thing. Nothing against you, I know in some areas/circles, it IS a thing, but it just seems so so crass to me. Inviting an audience to come judge your loot-haul? YUCK.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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daffodils:  I just spit girl scout cookies all over my computer screen. You win the internet today!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’ve never heard of this. I don’t plan on doing one either, but most of my guests will have to fly or drive 2+ hours to get to our wedding. We had friends that had a “couples shower”. Both men and women were invited. There was food and booze. A couple of games and then opening gifts. I like this because it makes it about the couple and their marriage. Not just the bride getting married (which takes me back to the 50’s when marriage was like, a woman’s greatest acheivment in life). Might be a solution? Use the shower as a “gift opening”. 

Also, people aren’t supposed to get you seperate gifts for the shower and the wedding, are they? Asking for myself because I don’t know. But it just seems excessive. 

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