- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Okay so I wasn’t sure what forum to put this in, Parties, Emotional or Christian, but here is the situation.
Originally my Future In Laws wanted to do the rehersal at their house, we told them no only because they’re 45 minutes away from the church AND they wanted to have and additional 30-45 people from my FI’s extended family and friends at the rehersal and I reallllly just wanted something small and simple. My FMIL said they just wanted to throw a party for us since we didn’t do the engagement so I convinced her that she could do the same party, just the day after the wedding and she would get to throw the first official party for us as a married couple after the wedding. She liked this idea a lot.
So we had the timeline:
Friday: Rehersal + Dinner (SMALL, Bridal Party + Immediate Family ONLY)
Sunday: 11am My family’s traditional brunch (my extended family is in Windsor and I’m in Toronto so we always do a “farewell brunch” everytime we visit for ANYTHING)
4 or 5pm Bonfire at the inlaws house
Fastforward 4 months from the decision. FMIL calls and asks me if on the Sunday she can host the baptisim for my FSIL’s daughter. I’m a bit stunned but think “I get 1 day, not a weekend, I can’t be a bridezilla” so I say that’s fine but understand I’m still doing the brunch wiht my family, she says not a problem, the baptisim would be in the afternoon and they would still do the bonfire it would just now include FSIL’s family.
FI talks to his Mom and asks who’s idea it was since his mom said numerous times FSIL does NOT want to take away from my day/time. His mom admits it was her idea, not FSIL. And she only wanted it that day because of the international family being there.
Now I’m still slightly bothered because I know I will not be able to make the Baptisim (Last time they had it at 1pm and my parents live 45 minutes from my Future In Laws house) and the bonfire which was supposed to be for us is now for both, but I keep saying I can’t be greedy.
FI is MORE bothered by this, he doesn’t like that his mother wants to change the plans, and I told him my mom is going to be upset simply because his parents always change the plans/never follow through with what they say and he really doesn’t want to give my mom another reason to hate his mom.
What do I do? Let FI try to convince his mom to not do it that day? I’m also sad because FI thinks I’ll be chosen as the Godmother but I wont be able to if its done that day… (FI is Godfather to the older daughter) Fi says its being done so his parents can “show off” to their family and I do somewhat agree but I donno what to do… I admit I’m bothered but not enough to say no, but I’m also worried I’ll have to tell my mom about this soon and she’s going to flip. I told my dad and he agrees if this goes through, my mom’ll be pissed.
sigh…. Keep Quiet and let FI handle it/not handle it (I think he’s forgotten already) Or push him to let her do the Baptisim or push him to not let her do the Baptisim?