day of coordinating own vs professional

posted 1 year ago in Logistics
Post # 31
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My super-organized friend volunteered to be our DOC and I’m so incredibly grateful to her. She made sure everything ran smoothly. She put out so many fires I never even saw the day of the wedding, like when the DJ randomly decided he wanted to set up his booth in the middle of the dance floor instead of off to the side like my floor plan showed. My Darling Husband and I made all the vendor arrangements and plans, organized the seating chart and how we wanted everything, and then turned it over to her to execute. If she hadn’t done it I would have hired someone, because if I had to worry about all that stuff I would not have enjoyed my wedding day nearly as much as I did. We had about 100 guests. Honestly, just having someone else whose contact info the vendors had, and who they could go to for questions, was priceless. She also helped the photographers round people up for pictures, and coordinated with the DJ for when the music should start and stop for the processional. 

I’d say, if you’re unsure if you need one, write out your list of all the things that have to happen on your wedding day. If you don’t have a “stage manager” to make sure they get done, will they get done? Will you have to be the one to explain everything to the vendors on the day of? Will that stress you out?

Post # 32
819 posts
Busy bee

I am not having a day of coordinator. Our venue has their own coordinator. However I am an extremely organised person who plans for a living & has helped many people plan their weddings before. My husband to be is a strategist. I think we are good!! 

Post # 33
873 posts
Busy bee

Please hire a professional. My venue offered a day of coordinator but I have a friend who plans events for a living. She literally was a life saver. The venue’s coordinator did nothing! There was no way my wedding would have been successful without a professional who has done this before. 

Post # 34
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

laura0707 :  day of coordinators are not the same as wedding planners. You can’t speak to “what the big deal is” in not having one since you haven’t actually had your wedding yet. 

rvrmtn10 :  OP, bite the bullet and pay for one. It’s the best money you’ll spend as far as the wedding goes. 

Post # 35
6755 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know I chimed in earlier, but I also felt compelled to add a little info.

I see a lot of talk about venue coordinators and I just want to point out that in the wedding world there is a HUGE difference between a *venue coordinator* and a DOC/Planner you’ve hired on your own. While yes, the venue coordinator will help oversee setup and with the flow of the day one huge aspect of a DOC/Planner is to be an advocate for YOU. They are the ones that are going to go to bat for you with your vendors and make sure you’re getting the best possible service. At the end of the day the Venue Coordinator is going to be loyal to the venue, not to you. 

Post # 36
1659 posts
Bumble bee

laura0707 :  the day of coordinator adds value the day of. you won’t know if you were lucky until your wedding day is over. 

Post # 37
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

They weren’t even heard of when I got married 15+ years ago. It was a 100 guest wedding and nothing went wrong. I have no intention of hiring one this time either 

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