Post # 1
We are just starting to plan our July 2009 wedding, but the other day my Mom mentioned that we would likely hire a "day of coordinator" – which surprised me a bit. We’ll be having a nice wedding, but certainly not the kind where we’ll be investing in wedding planners, etc.
On the one hand, we’re having a large wedding and there will certainly be plenty of traffic-directing that will need to be done. I’d feel bad over-burdening a friend or family member with DOC responsibilities. But on the other hand, my gut instinct is that it just feels a bit extravagant…
Thoughts? What does a paid DOC do? Worth the money? I guess more importantly – if you didn’t have one, did you wish you did and if you did have one, was it worth it?
Post # 3
I was in the same boat as you- didn’t think I needed one and it felt extravagant- I’m not planning a "platinum wedding" after all. But I hired a coordinator 4 months before the wedding and it’s been my best decision so far! Suddenly I am not stressed about the day-of details, like making sure people get paid, the flowers & cake arrive on time, the ushers know what to do, etc. I just tell myself that the coordinator will take care of it. I truly believe she will be worth every penny when it’s all said & done.
Maybe you’ll feel this way when your wedding draws closer- at this point it might be hard for you to feel the stress of getting all the tiny pieces into place just right! 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 4
The BEST thing I ever did was hire a DOC. I also didn’t totally get what the deal was but I LOVED IT!!! She was amazing. 3 weeks before the wedding she sat down with us to go over every single detail – it made me think of things I hadn’t thought about before. She created lists of all my vendors, reviewed their contracts and called them all to make sure they knew what time and where to show up. She did the same with my wedding party. She had a to do list for us and made sure everything got done. She ran the rehearsal which was such a huge help, I had no idea I would need help with that.
Then the day of, I woke up and didn’t think about A. Single. Thing. Neither did my mom or my BMs or my husband. We got ready, hung out, – it was fabulous. I didn’t once think about any of the details. My DOC set up my candy buffet, my escort card table, my guestbook table. She made sure everyone the flowers were right, the programs and fans were on the chairs. She made sure my husband and I didn’t run into each other before the wedding. She had assistants on our buses to make sure everyone got on at the hotel and home at the end of the night. When the wedding was over, she packed everything of mine up and made sure I had samples of all the goodies. Anything I needed all day, she made sure I got.
If you can afford it do it. But definitely check references as I have heard some less than stellar stories. If they don’t seem organized and on top of things from the first time you contact them, look elsewhere!!
Post # 5
We’re not having a super-fancy wedding either, but I stress like no other, and I just don’t want to be that way on my wedding day. I already feel better knowing there will be someone behind the scenes to direct things and I won’t have to make my friends and family set everything up. My coordinator even does little things like bathroom baskets, so that’s one more DIY detail I don’t have to think about!
I’m soooo glad we’re spending the extra money on this!
Post # 6
I’m 2 months out from our date and thinking of hiring a day of coordinator. We aren’t having a big fancy wedding either, but I suspect it would take a great deal of pressure off the last few weeks of planning and help sort through who handles what on the big day. It might be well worth the cost.
Are you in Mpls? I’m in St. Paul. There are some vendor links on the Mpls knot boards and descriptions of the services offered.
Post # 7
We really lucked out with our caterer; she’s basically serving as our DOC, coordinating vendors, setting up guestbook tables, etc. Otherwise, I’d definitely need one.
Post # 8
We are extending our DOC duties to a Week-of-Coordinator (for a fee of course). But the extra hands will be worth every penny as we don’t want to burden friends and family members with all of the loose ends – just want to enjoy the week! She will provide 35 hours of service that week including the day of the wedding.
Post # 9
The closer the big day gets (3 days!!) the happier I am that we got a DOC. Most importantly, she is "running the show" and she is going to be the point of contact for all our vendors. This way I don’t have to be answering the phone while I’m getting my nails done!
Post # 10
Yep- I’d be happy to recommend mine if you’re in the Twin Cities area. Let me know!