Post # 1
Our wedding and reception will be fairly small with approx 50-75 in attendance. We’re doing mostly everything ourselves regarding decor and music and will be having our food served buffet style as we’re likely just going to order in from a local bbq place. So my question, would we still benefit from a day of coordinator? My first thoughts are why would we need one but then I want things to be organized so our guests will know the ceremony is about to start or we’re having our first dance/cutting the cake/time to eat. I’ve been to some weddings where guests have missed these fun pieces of the reception because no one knew when things were happening so were either making their plates away from the action or even left prior the cake cutting and I don’t want this to happen.
I’ve read where the day of coordinator will do things such as work with the vendors while they set up and tip them or gather up the gifts at the end of the night (we’re not doing gifts) or make sure the hotel is ready at the end of the evening (we’re getting married at home so no need for that) and so I’m a bit worried about spending needless money since these are not things we’d need.
I’d love to hear from those who have had a similar ceremony as ours and either did or didn’t have one. Thanks!
Post # 2
We had 38 including ourselves. People were intelligent enough to figure out when important things were happening. We didn’t do cake, dances, speeches though, but in a small crowd, just having someone rap a glass or announce should work just fine. While we could have run a bit more smoothly, we did alright. No one missed out, got lost or anything like that. Parents were a big help, too. Being able to get ready the day before is also helpful. Don’t waste your money.
Post # 3
We had 45 guests and hired a DOC. She was a lifesaver and worth every penny!
While I was getting my hair and make-up done with my friends and family – she and her assistant set everything and packed everything up afterward. She also handled any hiccups that occurred on the day of. It was truly wonderful to not have to worry about anything and know if something happened someone other than family was taking care of it.
Now our DOC did not act as our emcee. She did greet guests as they arrived at the ceremony, but at the reception we had a Jazz Band and the lead singer acted as the emcee announcing us when we arrived, the cake cutting, speeches, etc.
Post # 4
I’m in a simialir situation, with about 100 people.
I figured on having a schedule of events listed somewhere for guests to see, ex: Ceremony: 5pm Dinner: 6pm Cake cutting:8pm
I don’t want people wondering what’s going on (this is what I hate as a guest tho so maybe it’s just me!) and I know a lot of older relatives wait until the cake is cut to leave I want them to be able to know when that is.
Post # 5
We had 65 guests at out wedding, and didn’t have a DOC and everything went fine. When the important parts happened, the best man made an announcement and everybody came flocking. We handled all of the set up and tear down and all of the issues that cropped up. We also didn’t hand a dj, or a caterer, and everything still went fine.
Post # 6
We’ll be having around 100 guests and don’t plan on hiring a DOC. My FI’s brother in law will be acting as our MC, so he will ensure that important things (such as cutting the cake, speeches and dances) are appropriately announced. We aren’t having a lot of decorations (mostly flowers, which our florist is taking care of anyway) and the venue coordinator will be acting as a DOC once we arrive at the venue (she’s handling the set up and pack up plus is our point of contact all afternoon/evening) so we figured a DOC was an unnecessary expense.
Post # 7
It depends on how complicated it’s going to be. If you’re having a wedding with “all the frills”, for the record, I’ve never really heard of anyone regretting getting a DOC.