Post # 1
Okay, so my fiance and I have just started to officially plan our wedding. My parents have tentatively offered their backyard for the wedding, but are concerned that they would spend too much of the wedding day running around getting things ready or helping set things up. I have considered hiring a day of coordinator so they have less to worry about, but wonder if it’s really worth the money, or would we be better off just finding a normal venue? Our wedding will be very low-key, with a country picnic feel. I know I don’t need a full coordinator, because a majority of the things will be done DIY by myself, my fiance, and my family.
Post # 3
@cuppiecakes62114: I’ve gone back and forth over this too. We are having a small (around 50 so far but I think it will end up closer to 60) backyard wedding on my families farm. I have pretty much excepted that the day before and the morning of are going to be crazy. My family and friends say they have no problem pitching in and helping me run everything. As long as I delegate correctly I think it will be ok. BUT I am so stressed that I’m not going to be able to just sit back and enjoy my day with all the work that needs to be done, making sure everything transitions smoothly, ect. My heart is set on the backyard wedding because it has a lot of sentimental value for me, nevermind that its a gorgeous property. If I could afford the day of coordinator than I would go for it. How attached to the idea of the backyard wedding are you? People think you can save money going that route but it’s really the opposite bc you have to start from scratch. If its not super important to you, than you might be better off finding a ‘normal’ venue. That said, I think it’s doable (I am doing it after all haha) without a coordinator as long as you have lots of help. I think I’ve started to ramble, hope any of it helps! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@cuppiecakes62114: I would say so, of course depending on what your budget it and how much the DOC charges. Wouldn’t it be so nice to not have to worry about anything except having fun and getting married?! I want one, but I don’t think there are any in our little town :/
Post # 6
How about recruiting an aunt or someone in your family who is super organized?
Post # 7
I recommend a DOC for just about everyone, regardless of wedding size and variety. It’s great to have someone (who is a neutral 3rd party) watch the clock, corral people and make sure that anything that needs fixing/nailing/gluing/sorting gets done.
Post # 8
I had one for our backyard wedding. It was worth it.
Post # 9
Thank you all for your responses!
@suburbian The guest list is around 60-80 (My mom is one of eight kids, so I have a large family).
@Diamondgurl I do have an Aunt that is super organized, but I’m really close with her, and I’d feel like it’d be the same situation I don’t want to put my parents in, of not being able to enjoy the day fully because she’s playing conductor.
Everything will pretty much be done before the wedding (all of the DIY stuff at least) and I’ll be having a few things that will be hired (photographer, possibly DJ, possibly Caterer), but a majority of it will be done by family and friends already.
Post # 10
Ladies – we have an intern training program where we match an intern with a bride to aid them with their wedding. The intern is supervised by a lead planner/coordinator throughout the entire process. If this is something of interest to you it could be a great way to get professional assistance while being budget conscious. PM if this is something you’d be interested in persuing.