Post # 1
So, I’ve been thinking a lot about my stress level on my wedding day and I have decided that one way to really be calm about it is to hire a wedding day coordinator who will handle all the set-up, coordination, etc. When I talked to my Fiance about it he said he thought it wasn’t something we really needed to spend money on.
I know my wedding day will be wonderful regardless, but I think I’ll breathe easier with a day-of coordinator.
So, I’m reaching out – did you have one and find it helpful? Have one and find them unnecessary? Not have one and wish you had?
We’re inviting ~150 people, and the ceremony and reception are in the same place. We won’t be able to see anything until just before the ceremony.
Post # 3
YES YES YES
or if you know someone kinda that might be able to do it as a favour kinda…. i’ve had lots of people ask if they could come the day of just to make sure everything runs smooth, and i declined because i have a day of coordinator already, but still…. i woulda taken them up.
Post # 4
I had one and I absolutely do not regret hiring her. Even DH raved about how great it was to have her. She anticipated everything and coordinated all my vendors. We were able to sit back and enjoy the day while she coordinated when the cake is going to be cut, and when to let people into the reception area and even photo ops. Don’t get me wrong, all of our vendors were great and super professional, but a coordinator was like an executive assistant, making sure we were never bothered by anything and that everything goes according to schedule and plan. She figured out where to put all our DIY stuff and where our gifts had to go.
If money is tight, you could ask if someone you know can do it but I would hope it’s someone very organized and can keep cool under pressure. I would also pick someone who has experience with large-scale events and coordinating multiple parties/vendors.
Post # 5
It was very helpful to have one, so you can focus on getting ready and not have to worry about whether your vendors are there or where your groomsmen are. You would be surprised how many last minute things must be done on the big day, and having a DOC means they arent something you have to worry about.
Post # 6
If you can work it into your budget, do it. We had “partial” planning which included DOC, and it was a lifesaver. I don’t handle stress well and it made the whole wedding process much less stressful.
Post # 7
I wish I would have had one for the ceremony, but it just wasn’t in the budget.
Post # 8
YES! You should definitely have someone(s) assigned to help on the wedding day. Instead of delegating that task to just one person I spread it out among several of my family members. For example, one person was in charge of wedding decor, another in charge of seating, etc. Even though I had everything planned out months in advance I found it very helpful to have a “Day-Of” coordinator making sure nothing went wrong.
Post # 9
I haven’t had my wedding yet, and I only hired a DOC, but she’s already been worth her weight in gold just for relieving some of my anxiety. I have some logistical issues with my venues and she’s going to do some field work to make sure we have a workable arrangement. Since I’m planning from another state, that is so helpful for me. I don’t know whether that’s normal, but she said she always does some legwork ahead of time because that makes her job easier the day of. I just know that I’ll feel so much better having someone there who has worked with my venues and who understands what type of communication needs to happen between various vendors, and just someone with the experience to quickly respond to any problems that come up.
Post # 10
I haven’t hired one, but I have a friend (wife of a groomsman) that is going to help out with some stuff, like making sure the parents get their boutonnieres/corsages, checking to make sure the venue has set everything up properly, etc.
Her help will be invaluable, I’m sure.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
YESSSS! My wedding is over and it’s my biggest regret. I figured I could handle it myself, but I had so many vendor “mess-ups” that I wish I’d had one point person to coordinate and make sure my vision was realized. If you can afford it, DO IT!
Post # 12
I asked a friend to be my DOC because she is very organized and does wedding planning on the side…she even helped with dress shopping because my family is out of state. If you can at least get someone you trust to work with the vendors on your wedding day, it’s worth it. All I want to do is get to the venue, get dressed, get married and party!
Post # 13
It’s totally not in our budget and I’m still trying to figure out if we can get someone to do it. I think it’s an invaluable person to have because of the stress it relieves from you.
Post # 14
I have one and I am glad because they are in contact with venues and vendors and can get deals that you or I would not think of. She has ideas but you can agree or disagree but the help reduces my stress level and is making planning my wedding enjoyable. We have my own vision of what we want and she is making it happen. If I say I want this or that she will research it for me and provide me with the information to make an informed decision. I personally think you should if it is in your budget it will make the experience enjoyable. I am having a wedding with 250 guest and most are from out of town and I have to schedule transportation, hotel, activities, and entertainment. The venue has an event coordinator that will help with the hotel and transportation but I need my wedding planner to help with what I need to have done for the out of town guest.
Post # 15
If I can afford one, I will have one. If I can’t, I won’t… it will all depend. I’ve heard they are fantastic though, and you depend so much on your bridal party without one. Without one, my Maid/Matron of Honor will be doing too much to enjoy the party, really…. I think that’s a bit mean, and want to avoid it if I can…
Post # 16
YES!! Its the first thing we put a deposit down on (after our venue)!! My DOC has been amazing thus far and our wedding isnt until next year! After all the planning, I dont want to be the one handling all the issues on the wedding day. I just want to relax as much as I can and take it all in!