Post # 1
I had tossed around the idea to hire a DOC for our wedding when we first starting planning but the idea went to the wayside during the initial planning process. After reading several threads on timelines and reviewing our own timeline we thought it might be useful to revisit the idea. We are getting married at a restaurant and while we can decorate & use the space any way we’d like, it all needs to be removed before their dinner service (we are getting married around brunch time). I don’t see anything wrong with having family, friends, & the wedding party help with set up/breakdown/coordination, however my FH & I feel it would be easier to have some help because our timeline is VERY tight. We also have a semivolatile family dynamic (don’t we all, ha!) and we want to reduce any stress, if possible. We can afford to hire someone with some budget adjustments.
So my questions are, how did you find one? Word of mouth? Google? What are some important questions to ask a potential DOC? What should my expectations be? Potential cost for the day in north New Jersey? Any other considerations when hiring a DOC? It seems many bees highly recommend hiring a DOC and I would love to hear your experiences, especially if you’ve had a tight timeline.
I also added a poll because polls are fun 🙂 Thank you!!
Post # 2
I have no insight but I am commenting to follow, as this is something we are tossing around as well.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t if only because it seems like a small gathering. I’d be more inclined to spend the money on hiring a clean up team.
Post # 4
anikaof9 : Yay! The votes seem 50/50 so far
Post # 5
bibliophilacticbee : we are having a small wedding, ~80 people and we had thought my Future Sister-In-Law could step in to help with coordinating photos (we have an hour), helping with set up and breakdown (both might have an hour), and odds & ends with all the moving parts that weddings generally have; full disclosured, she offered to help with some of this when we first got engaged but is now pregnant (yay!) and will have a 2 month old at the wedding. I don’t think it’s right to have all that responability (if any) on her. We’d also like to minimize being totally dependant on our friend and family the day of so they can enjoy themselves as well.
Post # 6
We are only having 50 people at our wedding, but it was important to me to have a DOC. Luckily one came free with our venue. I am dropping off all of our centerpieces and other decorations to her in the morning, and she’ll take it from there. The last thing I want to be worried about on my wedding day is how I’m going to manage directing set up/tear down and all the other little odds and ends. And I think it’s kind of uncouth to ask guests to do it.
Post # 7
I second what wineosaur said. We had a small destination wedding but even then, I didn’t want to worry about decor and logistics with the officiant/photographer/DJ/caterer. I spent my wedding enjoying every minute with my husband and guests – didn’t have to lift a finger and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 8
I haven’t gotten married yet, but my venue required one, and we just signed a contract. It is pricey (we paid 800 and it was one of the cheapest options we could find), but she will help with planning, meeting vendors as needed, attend the rehearsal, bring flowers and tablecloths to the venue, do all the setup, keep everyone on a timeline the day of, pay all the vendors at the end of the night, and handle all the cleaning. I would not have gotten one if it wasn’t a requirement, but I think I will really appreciate the assistance! We could have asked friends or family to help but the closest people to us are already involved in the wedding and we also have a tight timeline and some diy components. I think it will be worth it!
We found ours at a bridal expo (where we also found our caterer).
Post # 9
wineosaur : I agree, I don’t want to be running around or answering all the questions if I can help it!
veganeh : I love the idea of being free to hang with our guest!
lucyinsky : I haven’t thought to go to a bridal expo but maybe that’s a good place to meet several DOCs. I have most of our vendors so I didn’t think an expo was necessary but it might be fun!
Post # 10
I think it’s worth it, depending on what services they will provide.
Having someone to be a point of contact for anything going on or going wrong on the day of your wedding is a godsend. Ex: the cake delivery is delayed and the driver is lost/can’t find parking/needs directions to the venue.
I would ask potential DOCs exactly what tasks they will and will not do. For example, I’ve seen many DOCs who advertise “cleaning up” as one of their services, but they actually mean “I will tear down your decorations and pack any keepsakes into the storage boxes you provided” but not “I will help clear dirty dishes and take out the trash.”
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
Worth their weight in gold!
We had one, and the day of my wedding it allowed me to show up and actually be present in my wedding rather than worrying about every detail or organizing everything. It gave me more time to enjoy our special day.
Post # 12
Our wedding was about 40 people but I still really am happy that I hired a day of coordinator. I was just so relaxed on the day of my wedding and she did all the setup and clean up, She kept us on our timeline and so all I had to do was focus on my wedding and the guests and she would come and get us whenever we needed to move to the next event. She handled all the vendors so when anyone came up to me I just told them to talk to her so I didn’t have to worry about any logistical stuff on the day off, it just made our day really lovely.
Post # 13
In NJ/NY I recommend The Day of Company!
Post # 14
If your options are DOC or family sweat equity, I’d go with DOC 100%. It sucks to be asked to set up and tear down, because most people don’t feel like they can say no.
I hired a DOC for my 65p wedding and she was amazing. Well worth the small expense.
Post # 15
misslucy : Thank you for the questions to ask and the scenerios! I want to make sure expectations are clear.
steny03 : that’s exactly how I want to feel the day of our wedding. My FH agrees, I think he agrees even more than I do, ha! Thank you for insight!
amanda1988 : I feel like it will be helpful to have someone guide the day because generally this is all new to everyone involved. Thank you for sharing!
AnonBee2019 : Thank you for the recommendation! I will reach out to them!
jellybellynelly : I want 0% family sweat equity if I can help it! We had a blow out with my mother and his mother about a month ago so I want the day to be easy on everyone! Thank you for your insight!