Post # 1
I was reading though some old posts about wedding horror stories and I saw a pattern in what seems to be wrong with the ‘worst wedding I’ve ever been to’ stories. People end up waiting forever between the ceremony and reception with no food or drinks to keep them company! For our wedding, we’re planning on having about 150 people come (at least that’s the idea right now), I want to have the ceremony, do pictures, have an hour for Fiance and I and our bridal party plus immediate family to just be. It’s supposed to be special for us right? Well I want to have that time to really spend with people we care about. But then I also want to be a part of the cocktail hour too! I don’t want to miss out on the awesome food I plan to have! So we’re thinking we’re going to do our ‘grand entrance’ at that time.
So my question is: How do I schedule it so that people aren’t waiting 2 hours in between the ceremony and the reception? I want them to be happy and want to stay! Do I have to give up on something?
Post # 2
Here’s what we did.
5:00 – 5:30 pm Ceremony
5:30 – 6:30 pm Cocktail Hour (we did our pics, wedding party mingled with guests)
6:30 – entrance, cake cutting, bridal dance
7:00 – dinner
8:00 – dancing & general merriment
we had around 150 people too
Post # 3
I think you need to cut out the hour after photos where you want to “just be.” It seems pretty unfair to your guests to have a 2 hour gap for you to just hang out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
To minimize this we are doing a first look and trying to get most photos done beforehand.
The ceremony and reception are all in 1 location.
We are planning a 4:30-5 ceremony. 5-6 cocktail hour. entrance & dinner at 6:30/7.
Post # 5
TaraMay_: That’s why I’m asking, because I don’t want to be unfair. But I also think that since this is about Fiance and I that we deserve some time to enjoy the fact that we just got married.
Post # 6
acglandorf: You do that after the reception. I would be very annoyed as a guest if I was stuck there waiting because the bride and groom “wanted some time.” Have the reception on a different day if you just want it to be the two of you after the ceremony.
Post # 7
This is what were doing, because I worried about the same thing.
5:00-6:00 Cocktail hour
After the ceremony and before dinner the bridal party is going out to a bar (FI insisted) but I can’t imagine we’ll be there that long. We’re also having a receiving line after the ceremony, and it takes about 15 minutes to get to the reception hall from the church.
Post # 8
MrsN14: Thank you so much for your help 🙂
onthefritz: Yea, I’m so bad at planning timing. I always assume things will take longer than they actually do and then people end up waiting around so I want to make sure that I don’t do that. But do you think that 45 minutes is enough time to having a receiving line, go to a bar and head to the reception? I absolutely hate being late for anything. I was just looking for some ideas. Thanks btw 🙂 🙂
Post # 9
acglandorf: this is how mine fell (give or take a few minutes)
3:00 pm – ceremony
3:15-4:15 – photos w/ wedding party, family, and just bride & groom while bar and buffet was opened to guests
4:15 – bride & groom sneak a quick dinner and drink
4:30 – bride & groom entrance/dances
5:00 – cake cutting/garter/bouquet
everything else was open for interpretation and we just had to be sure we wrapped it up by 8:30 to be out of the space by 9:30 as agreed. it went great!
Post # 10
blankenshiptobe: Love it! I guess I never thought that the time you’re having your pictures taken of just the two of you is kind of your time alone. I’d love it if we could do it at a hotel where we could sit and relax but I think that’s asking too much hahaha
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida
acglandorf: One of the wedding i planned the Bride and Grooom snuck away for some Evening pictures as the sun was swtting and this gave them some alone time in addition to some additional phot ops.
Post # 12
acglandorf: While I completely appreciate that you want to have alone time with your Fiance, it’s very rude to ask your guests to wait around – especially with no food or drink – while you are hanging out and relaxing. Have you considered doing a first look? I was against the idea at first, but it allows for both pictures and alone time with Fiance without making our guests wait around. Plus, with pictures out of the way, we still plan on having 15 minutes or so of alone time at the beginning of the cocktail hour while still getting to enjoy the last 45 minutes with our guests.
One other idea – what about having a smaller wedding with just your immediate family and people who would be in your bridal party? It kind of sounds like those are the people you really want to be around, so perhaps it’s worth questioning if you want the larger wedding at all. I don’t mean this negatively at all – just something to consider.
Post # 13
acglandorf: 45 minutes isn’t enough time to get there before cocktail hour. We plan on coming back shortly before dinner, that way we’re all together before the grand entrance. Going to the reception hall, having to gather everyone up and then going out to do the grand entrace just seems like too much to me. This way we may not be there, but the guests will be able to occupy themselves with drinks, music and other guests.
Post # 14
acglandorf: If you really want that alone time, make sure that drinks and food are provided to your guests. The most recent wedding my husband and I went to (in June), they had the pictures first, (reception, ceremony and pictures were taken all at the same place) before any guests arrived, and I mean ALL the pre-wedding photos, such as bride with bridesmaids, groom with groomsmen, etc. Then the ceremony, and right after the ceremony drinks and food were immediately served (buffet style) and the bride and groom had some alone time and joined their guests not too long after food was served.
Post # 15
goblueca: I don’t want to be rude, that’s why I’m asking. And I’d love to have a small wedding but Fiance wants a big wedding and it’s his wedding too! And since the size of the wedding doesn’t bother me all that much, I’ll be fine with it.
pinkcorsage: That’s a good idea! Thanks 🙂
FutureMrsHouy: I like that idea!