Post # 1
My fiance and I are looking for venues (in NJ) and the prices aren’t so kind to us. After talking with couple of the venues we like, we realized that day time weddings are less $$. I love the idea of looking for a venue and planning but I also don’t want to spend so much $$ on one day and our current plan is to save up as much as we can to have a place of our own by the time we are married. We are looking to have our wedding on a Sunday and we are leaning more towards a day time wedding for those who have work on Monday. I’m just kind of iffy because all the weddings I’ve been to were at night time and I am afraid that if it’s during the day time people won’t have as much fun? Any bees who had their wedding during day time in the summer (noon – 5)? Was it much cheaper?
Any comments/suggestions/thoughts are welcomed!
Post # 2
I definately would consider it. We cant always worry about the guests, its YOUR day. Do what YOU want and whats affordable
Post # 3
Typically, people tend to have more fun at night weddings. A lot of people just don’t feel comfortable drinking and dancing when the sun is still up. I know that sounds silly, but it’s true. I’ve been to weddings during the day and night and people always seem to have more fun and stay longer when it’s night time.
Same thing with Saturday vs. Sunday weddings. People always tend to have more fun or stay longer for Saturday weddings because they don’t have to work the next day.
Post # 4
YOU GUYS set the vibe. If you have a great DJ (this would one of those things I would not slack on) and you guys are up and dancing and having a great time everyone else will be too. If you are bumps on a log, they will be too.
I know you don’t need alcohol to have a good time, but people do dance more when they are drinking. Can you do wine/beer/mimosas? If you have an afternoon wedding followed by a kick ass reception they will stay. If you have a Sunday evening wedding followed by a reception, people will surely leave early because of work the next day.
Logistics are everything when it comes to planning. Good luck!
Post # 5
Mine will be from 1230-5 this June. The other option was 8-1am. Way too late for my older guests and much more expensive. I’m going with the earlier option. The guests I’ve talked to aren’t upset about time, they just say more time for the after party! I would be way too anxious waiting all day for the later slot too.
Post # 6
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
We had a brunch reception after our really early wedding. It was much cheaper! I think it was still awesome, but it had a more elegant feel than a late night Saturday wedding. We had a small guest list and didn’t want dancing so we knew it would have a different vibe.
Post # 7
tobelee0627: Sunday Funday Brunch Wedding sounds kind of awesome and different actually. You and your Fiance know your friends and family best. Ask your family, friends or wedding party to help promote people getting up and dancing if that’s important to you.
Plus, if you’re doing a sunday wedding, people will definitely appreciate it being during the day instead of at night.
Post # 8
tobelee0627: I’m having a daytime Sunday wedding on June 14th! We also chose it due to the lower cost. It hasn’t happened yet, but I still think we will have fun! Our ceremony is at 11, with cocktails starting at 11:45 and lunch served at 1pm. We have the venue until 4:30-5pm. We will have dancing, but also lawn games for our guests after the meal is served.
Post # 9
tobelee0627: I attended a day wedding last summer. First one I’ve ever been to during the day. I still had a good time but a lot of people weren’t dancing & not very many drank. A lot of guests also left kind of early but I had as much fun as I would at an evening wedding. I was one of the few on the dance floor though. You have to do what’s best for you and it depends on what kind of people your guests are and what they consider fun.
Post # 10
Thank you all for wonderful insights! I am leaning toward day wedding more and more and kind of getting excited! I really want my guests to have a good time but I also don’t want them to be stressing because the wedding goes well into the night. We want people to be relaxed and I think it’d be a good thing that we have it during the day. I thought people wouldn’t be dancing or having fun but I come from a big family of fun drinkers whom I have no doubt will be on the dance floor starting parties. My fiance and I are thinking about getting a nice hotel suite in the city that sunday night for our close friends who can attend so we can do a small after party. Thanks all again for your thoughts! It helps greatly to know that I am no the only one thinking about a day wedding!!
Post # 11
tobelee0627: I prefer for Sunday weddings to be earlier, because it allows me time to recover before going to work on Monday morning. Sunday evening weddings usually mean that I need to take Monday off of work.
Post # 12
tobelee0627: Personally I think it’s great and would love to attend a brunch wedding. I was all for planning one but Fiance didn’t share my enthusiasm there. I admit though, a lot of my enthusiasm would have been centered around day-drinking and the pancakes/waffles/eggs situation. I definitely would be dancing but I can see how it might not come naturally.
I think if we had gone with a daytime wedding, I would have tried to stress the, as a PP put it, SUNDAY FUNDAY attitude toward the whole thing. Made the invitations bright yellow or a coral color, with bold font, and put something up on the website (…or maybe even the invites) about day drinking and dancing.
For example: Ceremony begins at 12:30, with day drinking and dancing to follow.. or something.
Then I would find a DJ you absolutely love and who is willing to do whatever it takes to get people on the dance floor (if that is your objective, obviously).
For those who are really not into the idea of dancing, maybe have some outdoor games or some activity so they do end up saying “yeah, wow, that was super fun!”
Let us know what you decide and how it goes! 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
I’m having a day time wedding! In November though so not quite summer! I’ve decided it’s going to be a very elegant afternoon, with lots of food and music and just a beautiful party. I had a lot of nay sayers when I told people (MY PARENTS!) what I planned to do, but saving money to me is important, as I have a Condo to pay off and it’s my party and I’ll do what I want with it.
I think a Summer Time Sunday afternoon wedding can be even more fun because you can be outside. Mine will be inside, but I still plan on having a wonderful wedding. I agree with geneva2, you can do a lot with an outdoor wedding in the summer on a Sunday, especially if you’re looking for a more relaxed feel.
Post # 14
Also having a Saturday daytime wedding from 10-3. Only thing we’re worried about is keeping things rolling after we pack up our stuff. We were thinking of having people go bowling down the street, but not really sure how long of a day we want.
Post # 15
I think having a daytime wedding for a Sunday wedding is a great idea. People probably won’t drink as much and get as crazy but that is probably a good thing. My best friend is doing that for the same reason. It is kind of nice that you get to spend the whole day as husband and wife.