Post # 1
When we were TTC and newly pregnant, Darling Husband and I decided we were going to hire a full-time nanny when I went back to work because we believed it fit best with our schedules and liked the flexibility. Now that it’s getting down to cruch time (due October 3), we reevaluated our budget and long term goals and decided that a nanny was just too expensive (2x more than daycare in our area, 75% of my takehome pay).
So I started researching and calling around to daycares (both in and out of home), and what I’m finding is VERY frustrating (though not surprising)….. all of the good ones are full and have waiting lists!!
Sure, there are plenty of spots open in crappy daycares that have lots of violations on their state inspection reports and their facilities are dirty, workers are not attentive, and locations are less-than-ideal (industrial park next to the city dump….). I’ve toured them, the tought of leaving my baby there makes me want to cry (which I did after a few tours….)
I don’t need childcare until February, but my top 5 places do not believe they’ll have space for an infant until at least next September.
What is a mother to do??
Post # 3
@ExcitedScaredBee: Yes, many good daycares fill up fast. I’m not due until march and looking for childcare until June and have already put our name on many waiting lists. Keep looking, hopefully something will pop up between now and then – you’ve still got time!
Have you been looking at home day cares or just day care centers? Also, maybe you could consider a nanny share with another family? I’d also search for stay at home mom’s who are looking to make a little more money by caring for another child – might not be ideal for you, but they tend to be less expensive.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@ExcitedScaredBee: Unfortunately that is the reality of good daycares. The ones in my area have waiting lists that start with women who just got their BFPs and EDD. The even better ones allow you to get on the waiting list as soon as you’re married!
Keep calling the daycares because some of the spots that are reserved may be by parents that double booked their child or they decided to be a Stay-At-Home Mom or have grandma watch the baby at the last minute.
Post # 5
I would keep looking, sign up in all the daycares, and pay for a nanny until you get a call for the daycare.
Post # 6
@ExcitedScaredBee: I found the same thing. I couldn’t believe how long the waiting lists were! And I think I started calling in September (DS & Dirty Delete were born in January!) I couldn’t get them into the place I wanted (which was also CRAZY $$$), so luckily, word of mouth led us to a sweet lady who watched kids out of her home. Babies really don’t need much more than someone to love them, change their diapers, feed them and provide them with a little stimulation. As long as they’re not being neglected, some of that other stuff at the “really good places” is superfluous; infants don’t need to learn their numers, colors or French.
I would ask around. Ask at work, ask other mom friends who went back to work. I wasn’t open to the idea of a home-based daycare at first and wanted them in a well-regulated center with rules and check-ins. But, once I met the kids’ babysitter, I trusted her, heard many good things about her, knew the kids she watched…so it was ok.
Now, when the kids were old enough to need letters and numbers and stimulation beyond an at-home daycare, they went to preschool.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Ask around for word of mouth options, get yourself on the waiting lists, and start nanny hunting for the duration. Around here, you book your waiting list spot as soon as you get your BFP, but no later than your 3rd or 4th month of pregnancy. Our current plan is to hire a nanny for at least the first year that I am back at work (so until future LO is 15 months) and then transition to a good day care center. We’ll probably get on the DC waiting list when LO is 9 months old and then keep the nanny until a spot opens. That is unless we decide to go for another LO, in which case we’ll just keep the nanny on since we would need nanny for the new LO, too.
Post # 8
@MrsWBS: I’ve been looking at both centers and in-home. I’ve called any place within a 10 mile radius of our house that’s licensed through the state.
We also posted an add on care.com looking for a full-time nanny who is interested in a nanny share situation. We got a lot of responses, but no one who had another family who was interested.
I’ve asked everyone I know who has babies (or have family/friends with babies), and their situations are all so different from ours. Most of them have family watching their kids, or have flexible work schedules so they either work from home or have alternating days off with their DH’s. We don’t have this luxury.
@bebero: This is most likely what we’re going to do. I hate the thought of hiring a nanny for a short amount of time, because I think it’s disruptive to both the child and the nanny, but we can’t afford to keep them long-term, and we just might have to bite the bullet until we hear back from one of our top choices….
Post # 9
@bebero: +1. A nanny as a short term solution until you can get a spot at a daycare you are comfortable with seems like the only solution. I’d suck it up and pay the nanny for a few months rather than send my baby to a place that has violations against it.