Post # 1
DHs niece (30s) has three small children. One is under a year old. She was complaining at a family bbq about how she pays $500 a week in childcare. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to offend her but that number sounds totally reasonable for three children. My sister pays her nanny $15 an hour so that’s about $600 a week for one baby! I understand a nanny might do other chores too but $500 for three kids is super reasonable. That’s like paying someone under $13 an hour to watch your three kids.
I understand childcare is a huge expense for parents but when you actually break it down to an hourly wage it’s actually pretty reasonable. I have worked in childcare centers and it’s a very difficult and stressful job.
Post # 2
Where I live, a decent daycare is $1500-1800/month per child. That divides out to $8.65-$10.38/hour. While that doesn’t seem like a lot, a $400k mortgage at 3.5% is $1800/month. Imagine having multiple kids and a house… it adds up.
Post # 3
$500 for 3 is amazing price wise, where i live its almost $500 for one kid…….
Post # 4
I’m not sure what you’re really wanting out of starting this thread.
It’s entirely possible for $500/week to be:
1) reasonable from a $ per hour per child value
2) something to complain about because it either takes almost the entire parent’s take home pay to cover it or is causing the family to delay saving for college, retirement, a house, or slashing their fun money to the bone.
Post # 5
gatsbymermaid : depends on their income. I know that many families can qualify for childcare subsidies when it’s needed and even $500 per week can be a lot for a family of 5.
Post # 6
$500 per week is basically my entire income after taxes…
You don’t know their financial situation. The cost of child care is the main thing stopping my husband and I from TTC.
Post # 7
I mean $500/week would be 4/5th of my mo that take home pay so I would complain …..
Post # 8
Around here daycare for ONE infant starts at ~$450 a week for anything with drop off/pick up hours outside of 9 – 5. Most places are closer to $500. And I’m in the suburbs, the options downtown are even more scary.
However the wages around here are above average as well because it’s a HCOL area. Absolute numbers mean nothing, it all depends what that value is relative to the average income in the area (and her families income in particular).
Post # 9
We pay like $550 a month for daycare for our baby for 4 days a week. I would sure as shit complain about spending $2000 a month on daycare. That’s significantly more than our mortgage. I know a lot of people do it, but it still sucks and it’s still worthy of complaining about!
Post # 10
Around here it’s like $800 a month for one child but I believe many places give “discounts” as you add children to their care so it doesn’t just triple.
That being said, think about that cost per year, $26,000. When you take take taxes into account in my state, a $31,000 salary is needed just to pay for that childcare. Then you find out the median household income is $56,000 and start to understand why that might be a struggle.
Just because your sister pays way more for a nanny doesn’t necessarily make $500 a week reasonable or affordable. Why not show a genuine interest and ask about it instead of silently judging?
Post # 11
Affording daycare is one of the most stressful things for any working parents. I wouldn’t begrudge any parent to complain about it, even if it it ‘reasonable’. Finances take a big toll on people. Allow them to vent if it’s not weirdly excessive.
Post # 12
At least you didn’t say anything, you sound a bit out of touch. What one person thinks is “reasonable” to spend on daycare, or food or vacations doesn’t mean it is reasonable or easily affordable for others.
You make it sound like 2k+ a month is nothing for a family to spend in a month on one single expense.
Your sister pays $600 a week for a nanny? Big deal, my friends also own an 80k car, that doesn’t mean it is reasonable for me to buy one just because they did, it is totally irrelevant.
Post # 13
I will be paying $150 per day for one child starting next week. Will only be having my daughter there two days a week since I can’t justify the cost whilst I’m not working. I’ve waited this whole year to find her a place somewhere. Ugh.
$500 May be comparatively cheap for 3 kids but it’s still a significant chunk of change.
Post # 14
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She pays $2000/month total for three kids?
where I live that’s the cost of ONE.
not that I think that’s a good thing. I believe daycare should be subsidised big time to
Post # 15
I completely agree that it’s a lot of money. My point is that the money is helping to pay hardworking people who watch and care for your children.