Post # 1
my daughter has been attending daycare since she was 6 weeks old with the exception of summers and holiday weeks (husband is teaching)
shes had the same two teachers and occasionally some will rotate here and there. My daughter has done fine, once she started sitting she didnt nap as much but for the most part she behaves.
One of her teachers started complaining about her a lot lately. I picked up 3 days this week and all the main teacher mentioned was that I had a two year old because at 10 months she was walking so well. However the other teacher has been going on speeches about how my daughter is a mess, and she wants to evict her because he tries to steal food from the other babies and she gets into everything. She mentioned that my daughter pulled on the chargers while phones were plugged in.
She mentioned my daughter hits her face when she picks her up which i can verify its true, my daughter is going through a phase where she slaps faces and she laughs. We have been working on several ways to get her to stop.
I apologized to her about DD’s behavior and let her know we are not okay with her hitting people, trying to take their things etc…
At first I took it as, the daycare teacher was joking a bit because she always has a sarcastic personality and she likes to joke.
This week however her demeanor has been very serious. What bothered me the most is that these comments about how bad my child is were made in front of the assistant director yesterday and she did not seemed bothered by it. My daughter did not want to go in the car seat and cried about this so i walked out with her carseat and her. As I am walking out the daycare teacher and the assistant director are laughing about how bad my daughter is and how much of a mess she is. Maybe I am being sensitive but as a previous daycare teacher and public school teacher, if I had talked to any parent about their child like that I would have gotten talked to.
DH says the same teacher will make the same comments always does so in a joking manner. He has complained about her(letting LO sleep on tummy when she was only 6 weeks old) before however and the daycare teachers tend to be scared of him.
Should I go ahead and switch daycares? Talk to the director about moving my daughter up? I called another center to inquire about space and I mentioned my LO was getting into stuff and their director said it sounded like my LO was bored in a baby room.
Post # 2
Please, please switch daycares. Your child is not being treated correctly. Anyone stupid enough to complain that a 10 month old is “misbehaving and stealing food” is no where near qualified to be caring for your child when she is in such a sensitive stage of her life. Your daughter is missing out on so much by being reprimanded for exploring her environment.
Switch daycares and file a complaint. This is absurd. That center should be ashamed of themselves for hiring teachers with literally no knowledge of child development.
Post # 3
They are ignorant and incompetent. Not to mention putting your child and others at risk of SIDS. I would be out of there and would also be reporting to licensing agencies.
Post # 4
I would be so gone. They sound horrible and you are supposed to trust them for caring for your daughter.
You are not overreacting, I would find another daycare, I don’t find this acceptable at all.
Post # 5
And how is your daughter able to pull on charger cables? How do the kids even have access to that?
Post # 6
That was my first thought as well.
OP: There is no scenario in my mind where the daycare isn’t at fault for this. Seriously, if they’re in her reach that’s a complete hazard and if she’s climbing on stuff to get to the counter they should be taking better care of her and paying attention more. Also, their first and foremost priority is caring for the children not checking text messages or Facebook. Phones should be left in the staff room if they’re charging. I would be livid.
Post # 7
Another vote for switch to a new daycare. They have been very unprofessional and it’s not ok. Early childhood educators are supposed to be competent in caring for all infants. They aren’t supposed to look down upon the ones that don’t fit in to their perfect little box. If they talk about her that way directly to you, I’d be very concerned with how they treat her when you can’t see.
Post # 8
that’s what hit me!! Wtf? How does she have acess to this? Why is a daycare complaining about an electrical hazard they are cresting?
I’d change daycare. I’d never want my child somewhere that sees her so negatively. When you change make certain you tell them it’s because of that one worker.
Post # 9
Please don’t feel compelled to apologize because your DD behaves in a perfectly normal way for a 10 month old!
Find something else as soon as you possibly can..
Open disrespect of a child in their care is proof that they don’t know what they’re doing.
Post # 10
I would remove her from this daycare ASAP. I truly wouldn’t feel safe sending her somewhere where the employees seem so overwhelmed and angry at the children in their care. Your daughter is completely vulnerable to this woman, who quite frankly sounds unhinged.
Post # 12
They don’t sound like much of a day care, and I hope you have the option to switch. Also, anyone who applies the word “stealing” to a ten month old should not be in child care, and why is she taking other kids’ food – are they not feeding her enough? A good day care teacher would be proud of your child for walking early and being curious, not this. And the thing with her not wanting to get in a car seat… that reminds me of how my son once threw a massive tantrum at pickup about not wanting to get in his stroller. His teacher walked over, said something to him, and just like magic, into the stroller he went. Real professionals have that special touch with children and would not call a child a “mess” over typical toddler behavior. I know that’s a high bar to set when child care is not always well respected or well paid… but what you’re describing is pretty sad and hopefully you can find something much better.
Post # 13
I would switch to another daycare.
Post # 14
I would also switch daycares if you can. They seem to have a severe lack of understanding of appropriate child development, and I too would want to know how she’s able to access their phone chargers.
This is coming from someone who has worked in my share of daycares- so much of this seems off to me.
Post # 15
Wow, I really feel for you. This is totally inappropriate from the daycare worker/teacher, and very disappointing that her superior has seen this happening and seems to ignore or even join in!
There’s no such thing as a bad or naughty 10 month old – they’re 10 months old!!! There are phases (such as you described) and behaviours that may need modifying with gentle strategies, but that’s it. Please don’t let these people Mummy-shame you because they are not good at their jobs! It sounds like they simply don’t have the patience for the work they are doing.
I agree with the others that your best bet is to switch daycares. Sadly, given their attitude, I would worry that making a complaint would affect the way they care for your daughter.
Good luck! From the sounds of it, I bet you’re an awesome Mum.