Post # 1
Hey bees…Im a little bummed about this dang DST nonsense…
we live in gorgeous Colorado and our wedding is just about at the one year mark away. (5 more days!) When booking the wedding, we didnt remember anything about DST ending exactly one week to the day before our wedding. We chose a Sunday afternoon wedding because it was darn near half the price!
The ceremony starts at 4p, and fiance and I are very adamant about not doing a first look beforehand. We want the emotions and excitement of seeing each other for the first time when I walk down the aisle. So the plan is to do our seperate photos with our guys and gals before the ceremony, and only have to do formals together, and with family, right after the ceremony during cocktail hour.
Problem is sunset is at 445p *OMG* and no light at all by 515p!! I am FREAKING out and the venue isnt helping, as we asked to start the ceremony at 3p instead of 4 and they said we couldnt.
I am so dissapointed and trying not to feel like we made a mistake. I am heartbroken at the thought of no photos of us together after the ceremony outside with some daylight. Think we can get a decent amount of pics in just 20-30 mins? If the ceremony starts at 4 and only last 20 mins, do you think we will have enough time to get some outside formals? I am curious if anyone else was in the same situation, had the same plans, the same limited daylight afterwards, and you still got some great pictures?
I could scream right now 🙁
Post # 2
Can you do pictures separately before the ceremony, you with bridesmaids etc and then try to get some done after the ceremony? Truthfully, I would, if it were me, do pics before the ceremony. All of them if I could. A first look can be so magical (it was my favorite part of our wedding day) and its quite practical. You could also take pictures indoors. I went to a wedding that did that.
Post # 3
I don’t know anything about how long the photos take, but on the bright side, you could get some gorgeous sunset shots!
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
I know you are deadset against doing a first look, but I really think you should do pictures before the ceremony. We took pictures for 1.5 hours before the ceremony, and we didn’t even have a big bridal party. During our first look, there was a rainbow, so clearly it was meant to be. After all is said and done, you will cherish the pictures forever. The first look can be just as romantic, if not more romantic than your Fiance seeing you walking down the aisle because you get to see his genuine reaction without him worrying about crying in front of 100 people. My husband got teary eyed during our first look and I know that he would not have if it had been during the ceremony as he would have been self-conscious.
You need more than 20-30 minutes for photos. Sorry.
Post # 5
Winter weddings usually have to adapt and do first looks in order to get good photos. I know you didn’t plan on it but personally, I’d forefit waiting to see each other until the ceremony to make sure there are spectacular photos of you two from your wedding day.
Post # 6
Do some super awesome nightime shots with fairy lights and that sort of jazz! This could be super cool.
Also, think about how much better most people look in dim lighting. It’s like free photoshop!
Post # 7
- Wedding: St. petersburg, FL
Best advice – ask your photographer. They can do some beautiful night shots if they have the right lighting.
As a backup plan, can you get some string lights or something and decorate one part of your venue so that you will still have some light, even if it’s artificial? Sorry bee, that stinks, but you could have absolutely beautiful dusk/night shots, too. Try not to stress- i’m sure your wedding will be fantastic!
Post # 8
thank you all so far for the responses..
The original plan was to do all seperate pics with wedding party and family seperately, before the ceremony and leave just the ones of us together for after the ceremony.
The venue showed me some of the pics of other couples on the same exact time frame, and I gotta say the sunset pictures are gorgeous. Maybe the first look is the smartest move, and we can STILL get those amazing sunset pictures.
I read your response, and honestly, I got chills. I know the intense emotions are going to be there for us even if we do decide to do the first look. I love this man and I know on this day our hearts will be full of love and pounding, no matter what. Thank you for giving me a push about doing the first look.
Thank you as well. I do agree – either way I am walking out of there as the wife of the man I want to spend forever with. And I would be heartbroken if we lost out on our photos. Maybe the first look is the way to go!
would you mind sharing about your first look? Did either of you get emotional? Did your heart pound and the excitement just as overwhelming?
Post # 9
If you want more time for photos in day light, I think you need to reconsider a ‘first look’. As someone who did a first look, from my experiece, the emotions and excitement do not come from seeing each other in wedding garb. The emotion is all in the very moment of walking toward him to get married. Nothing is ruined by seeing each other first imo.
Post # 10
I just went to a wedding where they planned this beautiful garden ceremony with tons of flowers and greenery, and it poured rain so bad that they had to delay the ceremony two hours and it ended up being on a brick patio in the dark. They had string lights everywhere and an arbor of greenery and it was absolutely stunning. The pictures were really pretty magical. Sometimes things don’t go as we picture them, and it turns out even better. If you don’t want to do a first look, can you get some cool lights and find a pretty place to put them for some evening pictures? I also think you can get 90% of your pics done ahead of time, go immediately into couples portraits after the ceremony, and still get some light. The background is not as important as the couple…you’ll be staring at your faces, body language, etc. far more than what’s behind you. I promise!
Post # 11
Just seeing you’re curious about first looks:
We both cried during our first look. It was very emotional and private and so nice to be able to hug him and hold him and giggle nervously with him.
We also both SOBBED during our vows ahahaha. We’re real cryers. The officiant had to give DH the hankie and made a comment about how she brings a hankie for the brides… 😛
Post # 12
GMTA! one of the reasons we chose this venue is because the grounds are beautifully landcsaped and all the trees have string lights! We have seen some dusk and nightime shots from previous weddings and holy cow are they gorgeous! The shadows and lighting effects are something else! We definitely intend to get shots with the lights anyway, but the more I think about it, we should totally do the first look. We can get 90% of pics out of the way and will need to spend only a little time after the ceremony for a few more, before the sun goes down. It would be a double score, as our family can get right to enjoying cocktail hour instead of missing out to get stuck taking pics, and the hubby and I could actually have some time to join cocktail hour also! A first look really makes the most sense.
This is just how I imagine our wedding day. Hunny and I are both criers and I have mentioned a few times that I will probably break down and look like a sobbing mess once I see him at the aisle. I love the thought of being able to spend a little private time with him prior to the ceremony to just enjoy the emotions of the day.
Post # 13
FWIW we didn’t do a first look as it just didn’t really fit our schedule, but I think it would have actually been nice! Walking down the aisle is awesome but you can’t really hug and talk to each other much since you’re up in front of everyone. It might be nice to have a private moment. Apart from seeing my hubby I found the best part of walking down the aisle was feeling all the love from the guests and being amazed that everyone had turned up just for us! That part of it wouldn’t be changed by a first look at all. We were also a bit rushed/stressed with doing our couple photos afterwards so it would have taken pressure off that.
Post # 14
I had a 4pm -4:45pm-ish ceremony, and sunset was at 5:15pm. We walked straight out of the church and right into photos at nearby locations. We made the most of the gorgeous, fading winter sunlight, then had some awesome locations for once it got dark. We didn’t do a first look, but it all worked out so easily.
My advice is to hire a photographer who is creative and can work in the dark. My photographer calls himself a ‘light geek’ and loves photo shoots that make him really think and work. I’ll throw a link here to my photo ‘sneak peek’ for some inspiration. We ended up with SO many amazing photos, to the point where it was hard to choose favourites!
I'm married! Winter glam, vintage museum wedding with our dogs – pics
Post # 15
Honestly we thought we had SO much time for photos after the ceremony but by the time we walked back down the aisle, did a brief little cheer with our bridal party, and finished family photos – it had been 45 minutes! So if you are really determined and don’t see ANYONE right after the ceremony then you could probably rush photos! Just be warned that you’ll be tempted to celebrate with everyone right away! 🙂
We did not do a first look and I totally support your decision to do so. It made the walk down the aisle so emotional and authentic. There’s nothing that compares to the look of my DH as I walked down the aisle and he saw me for the first time.