(Closed) dazed and confused

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you are having problems.  No one ever tells you that weddings are full of drama no matter who you are.  Are you the one paying for the catering?  If so, then you are within your rights to cut down the guest list so you don’t go into bankruptcy over the wedding.  Just try to make the best of the planning because it is your wedding after all!

Post # 5
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think having a midmorning wedding and an early reception would be a great idea and a great way to cut costs.  If you aren’t at dinner time, people aren’t going to expect to be completely filled up by the reception meal.

Post # 7
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

There are quite a few people on here that are planning dry weddings!  You aren’t the only one.  But having it not at dinner would make it easier for people to understand that you aren’t serving alcohol.

Post # 9
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Welcome suzie!

The guest list is always the most difficult, for just about all brides, I think.

For us, this strategy is currently working: We made a “master list” of everyone we could POSSIBLY want to invite (or even not want to, but feel like we have to). That number, of course, was huge. From that master list, we’re making cuts where “appropriate.” Not that it makes cutting people easy, but it does make it easier to see who the high-priority guests are.

And don’t worry about people wanting to drink—they can live without alcohol for one night. Your wedding is about your union not about their ability to get drunk at the reception. Maybe having a dry wedding will help remind them of that fact!

Post # 10
Member
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

So sorry SuzieG! It totally unfair that that your family and friends are putting all this undo stress on you! It is your wedding and a celebration of your love. It should include those people who have be a part of your relationship. Everyone who is invited to your wedding should in some way be a part of your lives (in a meaningful way) and what you described…is not that.

You, however, should also consider if sticking to your feelings (not wanting to invite certain people) and how that will make your family feel. If you choose not to invite your mom/dad’s best friends, how will that make your parents feel? It may be worth it to invite those people (in a way, a wedding is a celebration for your parents too!) then to hurt your parents’ feelings.

Post # 11
Member
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow….I am kinda in the same situation on inviting people, but nothing to do with food. I am only inviting immediate family members and very close friends. If everyone else has a problem with that, then they can pay for the difference!! Thats what I would say to those that are complaining

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