D&C or natural miscarriage?

posted 2 weeks ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - City, State

I’m so sorry for your loss as I lost a baby in December myself last year. I recommend just going for the D & C and getting it over with so you can move on. I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but I went on bleeding for months off and on because I didn’t want the D & C. As far as any future risks there really is none since it’s a very basic  procedure being done. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Equine_Breeder :  I’m so sorry for you loss my dear. Our second loss was a MMC and I opted for a D&C. The risks are quite low and a lot of the other options couldn’t guarantee that tissue wouldn’t be retained resulting in a D&C anyways (the odd time, tissue can be left behind during d&c as well though). Something else that appealed to me was that I would know ahead of time when it was happening. With the natural or medication route it’s a lot of wait and see. My recovery was very easy and I had very little to no pain. Do whatever feels right for you though, your comfort and feelings are what’s most important here. Sending you hugs.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this love. 😞 My first miscarriage was similar – a missed MC at 9 weeks that was discovered at my 10 week scan. My doctor recommended a D&C as a natural miscarriage can be quite traumatic at that point in the pregnancy. I was nervous about the procedure but it was actually very easy. I was put under for the procedure and wasn’t aware of anything till I woke up. I was a bit sore afterwards but nothing too bad. I took a few days off work to recover emotionally but physically I could have gone back the next day. I had no complications from the procedure. I got my period 6 weeks after the D&C.

i would recommend not waiting. For me, the worst part was being stuck in limbo between when I found out and when it was finally over with. Talk with your OB and see if there’s a place they would recommend. Sending so many hugs and I hope you’re able to move on from this soon. ❤️

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I was 5 weeks when I suffered a MC, I had it natural and will never do that again.

I bled for months and months and I just hated the whole experience, if I knew what I know now. D&C would have been my only choice, and an easy one.

I am sorry for your loss. Sending positive vibes your way.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I lost my baby around 8-9 weeks and had the D&C a week later.  We opted for that route mainly so we could do genetic testing, but also cause I didn’t want to wait it out (it had taken 3.5 years to finally concieve that time and I didnt want to wait to try again), and I was so fearful of the physicaly pain. It went smoothly, minimal bleeding after – just some spotting for a week or so.  I was completely knocked out for it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Equine_Breeder :  can’t speak for PP but I was under general anesthesia. The risk of scarring to the uterus is really minimal. The physical side of the d&c was the least traumatic part of the loss for me personally.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Equine_Breeder :  I honestly dont even remember.  I dont think it was general though, but the kind that knocks you out like a deep sleep, the same kind they use for IVF retreivals.  I think the risk is super low, alhtough I know any risk is scary.  I did end up carrying a full term baby with a pretty easy pregnancy though.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I chose to miscarry “naturally” when we lost our third pregnancy but mainly because I was bf’ing my 2yo and I didn’t want the added trauma of potentially needing to wean him in a short space of time. In terms of the timeline, we had a dating scan on 1 Feb at approx 7.5 weeks and there was no heartbeat, we had a second scan on 06/02 and the sac had started to collapse and I finally miscarried over three days around the 22nd of February (so the baby died at approx seven weeks and finally passed at 10.5 weeks) . I’m not going to sugarcoat it but the actual miscarriage was almost as bad as labour, there was a lot of blood and clots and terrible cramps but the worst part was having to leave work at lunchtime and in the middle of running a payroll (so here I was bleeding and barely able to leave the bathroom while I tried to get my work covered).

All the best for the next few weeks and be kind to yourself.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

After my first two children, my 3rd and 4th pregnancies ended in miscarriage. The first was at 11 weeks, the second was at 6 weeks. I choice to have a D&C under general anesthesia for both. I was afraid of the ongoing bleeding, ending up alone with my baby and toddler and having something go terribly wrong. Also, sorry to be graphic, but I didnt the think I could handle it after having passed some major clots and worrying about what I might see.

I went on to have two more healthy pregnancies and no problems with either pregnancy. In my case, after the  second miscarriage my awesome OB ran testing even though they normally wait until 3 miscarriages. I had two easy pregnancies before the miscarriages, so he really wanted to know what was wrong. They found I had MTHFR disorder, a common thing that can cause blood clots. WIth my next 2 pregnancies he had me take an anti-clotting drug.

Sending positive vibes your way.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2007 - City, State

Equine_Breeder :  first off, I’m so sorry. Not sure if you have had a miscarriage before but it’s this weird realization that you are part of a club that you were not part of before and it makes you feel alllll kinds of ways.

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks exactly. I tested positive and then started bleeding 2 hours later. I thought ok, no big deal, late periodish. It was so painful even at JUST 5 weeks. I had shakes and flu like symptoms and really bad back and pelvic pain. And then I cried for a week and felt so weird.

At 9 to 10 weeks, I would opt for the d&c. Your hcg levels are still super high. It could take awhile for your body to figure out what has happened and it will probably be super painful. Emotionally a d&c will be easier as well. I hated the in between limbo feeling of not knowing if I was miscarrying or just spotting (my body let me know pretty quickly but I still hated not being definitely sure). 

 

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