D&C or natural miscarriage?

posted 6 months ago in Pregnancy
Post # 33
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Equine_Breeder :  I’m so sorry to see your update!  I agree, as if it’s not bad enough as it is, dealing with insurnace just adds insult to injury.  If knowing the cost and stuff isnt going to change anything, and you’re going to do the D&C anyways, maybe just stick your head in the sand and wait for insurance to process everything and then deal with it?  They are so ass backwards and what not sometimes, that I feel like THEY dont even know what they are talking about half the time and no matter how much you try to prepare and talk to them and get information, you never really know what is going to happen until they acutally just process it.  

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My jaw dropped reading this update re: dealing with insurance at a time like this. I don’t know much at all about the US health care system. I am so sorry and horrified that you are going through all of this.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Yes, it really is an AWFUL system. Not only are you feeling with grief and stress from the loss, you are also expected to fork out for this huge bill 🙁 I couldn’t afford the surgery and I miscarried 7 weeks ago. I’m still getting the strongest positives on my tests that aren’t budging and I just have to wait it out for my hormones to drop more. It’s the most frustrating thing and if I had known it was going to be this long and awful of a process I think I would have tried harder to find the funds for a D&C. I hope you manage to figure it all out  x

Post # 37
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m sorry you are going through this. Just a thought on pricing – are there any abortion clinics near you? They tend to be much less expensive (certainly less than a thousand dollars) and my understanding is the procedure is basically the same. I got my D and C at an abortion clinc (I’m in Canada so didn’t have to pay at all but my doctor didn’t even provide the option of anything in the hospital, just referred me to a clinic). 

This may not be feasible depending on where you live and your beliefs but .just thought that I would share that potential option. 

Also I was surprised at the number of people who were fully under for their D and C. I was completely conscious for mine, with just medication to prevent any pain. It’s a pretty quick procedure, though awful to go through.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Equine_Breeder :  oh hun I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. That wasn’t my experience at all!! Insurance companies are so, so awful. It’s almost as if they try to take advantage of you when you’re down. 😡

have you had issues before with doctors refusing to take your health insurance because it’s non-traditional? 

Also, FWIW, I had my D&C at an abortion clinic, too. It definitely wasn’t a ‘personal’ experience but they were skilled and professional, and did a good job. 

Post # 39
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Equine_Breeder :  Im so sorry.  I’ve never heard of that and didnt know that was even possible.  I hope you were able to work it out this morning and you are recovering ok.  

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Equine_Breeder :  have you tried reaching out to your healthshare directly? I believe most hospitals will consider you a cash payer when you have a healthshare since it isn’t considered health insurance. From my understanding it’s more of a reimbursement system. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Equine_Breeder :  I’m so sorry everything was such a hassle. I hate insurance. Healthshares are a great alternative to traditional health insurance but I don’t think they are understood by all medical offices. It’s so obnoxious that getting good healthcare at a reasonable price is so damn difficult. I hope that you were able to have the D&C and are at home taking care of yourself. 

Something that was really hard for me was the post-op appointment after my D&C. It was at my OB’s office and I had to sit and wait with all the happy pregnant women chatting around me. I really have some PTSD after all that and it comes out at the office, even now. Self care is so important for you right now. I hope you are able to find a path forward. Always hear to talk if you need it!

Post # 43
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Equine_Breeder : Hey. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and realised that the embryo had stopped growing at 5/6 weeks. I did feel rubbish in the week leading up to the miscarriage and had minor diarrhoea, at the time I put that down to the hot weather. On the day it happened I just felt awful and went to bed and dealt with the pain there. I did have minor contractions, but I was able to deal with it. I felt better immediately afterwards but then for a week had no appetite, had on/off diarrhoea and was weak. I didn’t need a D&C, it took nearly two weeks for a pregannacy test to show negative. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

Equine_Breeder :  hugs. I am so happy to hear your surgery went smoothly and you’re on your way to recovering. I LOVE the idea of wearing something to remind you of baby. She was alive for that little while and she mattered and she was loved. It was hard for me because people around me seemed to go back to normal pretty quickly after my loss. People don’t know how to act about it and I get that because they just don’t fully understand. We are grieving babies we didn’t get to meet. It’s a unique pain. Allow yourself to cry and feel all the feels. I got a bracelet after my MC. The band is pink for our baby girl and I added Topaz for her December birthstone and some other cute charms to remind me of her. The bead on the far right says “Love makes a family.”

 

Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you are able to heal both pysically and emotionally. Hugs again. 

 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Equine_Breeder :  I’m glad to hear the D&C went well. I have several pieces of jewelry from my sister that are subtle but mean the world to me. I also bought a white hydrangea plant that I put in my front yard so I could see it every time I came home. It helped me put something physical to the babies I lost. I hope you are on the road to healing. Be kind to yourself during this time.

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